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Do I have to invite his sister (bridesmaid) to my bachelorette?

Cassidy, on October 9, 2013 at 4:11 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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I'm not crazy about my future sister-in-law. She is several years younger than me and despite spending a lot of time with her (both alone and in groups), we just don't "click." My fiancé made it clear that it was an expectation of his family that I ask her to be a bridesmaid, and that they would essentially never forgive me if I didn't ask, so to avoid trouble I asked her to be a bridesmaid. Since asking, she has been very pushy and tried to make it all about her, and hasn't made much of an effort to get along with the other bridesmaids. My fiancé assured me that she would just be in the ceremony, and wouldn't have to be involved in any of the other stuff, but now he is concerned that if I don't invite her to the bachelorette and include her, she will be hurt. My friends have been planning an awesome bachelorette party for me, a girls weekend. FSIL makes everything dramatic and about her, and I would really rather keep the bachelorette just my friends. Do I have to invite her?

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Latest activity by S2B Mrs. Davis, on October 9, 2013 at 6:55 PM

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Lacey · on October 9, 2013 at 4:15 PM
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Honestly, I think at this point, yes you do. It's sad you got pressured into putting her into your bridal party when you aren't close and don't get along. (I would have told FH to tell his family, that it is MY wedding and not theirs.)
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Kate · on October 9, 2013 at 4:16 PM
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Do you "have" to? No. Should you? Yes. She's a bridesmaid ... The ship has sailed for you to not feel obligated to include her in wedding stuff. You should have plenty of time before your bachelorette party so maybe she will calm down about the wedding before then
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Gris · on October 9, 2013 at 4:17 PM
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Yeah, just invite her. If she goes good, if she doesn't oh well. Atleast you invited her.
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Nicole Lynn · on October 9, 2013 at 4:17 PM
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You should but just do your own thing, if shes starts drama just ignore her and have fun! Dont let her bring you down!
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*Aly* · on October 9, 2013 at 4:28 PM
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I think if she is going to ruin your day.. NO, just tell her it was a surprise bach party but it should be your day and it should not be ruined! thats just my opinion! =) let us know what you decided!
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Master October 2013
Laudie · on October 9, 2013 at 4:29 PM
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I agree with Kate...just suck it up and invite the girl
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Cassidy · on October 9, 2013 at 6:40 PM
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It is looking as though there is no way around it :/
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Alysa · on October 9, 2013 at 6:43 PM
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At this point I don't think there is a way around it. Just invite her and ignore the drama.
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Dedicated October 2013
sabrina · on October 9, 2013 at 6:47 PM
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I dont think you have too i think that you should not have to worry about any drama and just have fun , would you want to have to be walking on egg shells all night or dancing and drinking and just having fun ? your call
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S2B Mrs. Davis · on October 9, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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Invite her and let her bring a friend to distract her? lol good luck!
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