Do i have to invite family i don't speak to?

My mom was the same way. I explained to her that this is my day. I wasn't going to be fake about it. If I dont talk with family on the regular basis then l didn't invite them because that's our money. I explained to her when my family have parties, weddings or anything else I'm not invited.

I had to cut family off our list. There was no way to invite everyone.
Our venue has a capacity of 240, told us we could invite 250.
We made our guest list. It hit around 300.
I'm not inviting cousins I never talk to over super close friends. Just not gonna happen. So I definitely cut relatives I'm not in contact with for close friends.
I'd say squeeze them onto the guest list if you have room.

Only invite who you WANT there.

I agree. It is my day and I don't want to invite family just because they are family. My family hasn't been close in years, and while we get invited to birthdays, we don't speak on a regular basis. I think I will talk to my mom about it because my fiance and I are paying the bulk cost for our wedding.

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We definitely have the room. Our venue can accommodate 350 people, but our guest list is barely over 100. I just don't want to be fake and feel like I need to invite people. My fiance doesn't care and isn't inviting family because they are family.

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I think I'll need to speak to my mom...

You don't have to invite anyone you don't want to. I have a huge family and only really associate with my mom's siblings and maybe 10 of my 45 cousins so those are the only ones I invited. Your best bet is to make a list of must have people, then a list of would like to invite if I can, then a list of people you think of but wouldn't be disappointed if they weren't invited. Go down your lists in order and stop when you reach your limit. That's what we had to do. People will be upset or whatever but you just can't include every person you know just to avoid hurting anyone's feelings, even if they are family.

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You are absolutely right. We already decided no children under 16. There are just too many, so that will start an argument for sure. It might even cut people out for me. haha!

You certainly don't need to invite anyone you don't really speak to. I'm not sure if this will work... We used the cut off that everyone needed to know both of "us" as a couple. It took what would have been an easy 200+ wedding into 65 invited to the reception.

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Oh I like that idea! Cause my family met my fiance once and that wasn't even all of them.

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Awesome! Glad it helps.

I'm not including a lot of family simply because we don't speak often enough for me to include them at my wedding. My Mom has given me a list of people she feels I need to invite but out of all of them I will be inviting two due to the fact I don't know the rest well enough.