Do i have to include my other sister??

This is tough, since this is family. But at the end of the day, the only people who have to live with your choices are you and FH. So many brides come on here, saying how they invited so-and-so to be a bridesmaid because it would make mom/dad/FMIL/etc. happy, and the bride ends up miserable and regretting it. I'd highly recommend only asking those who you feel closet to, despite what others might think of it

Honestly, it will come down to if making your third sister a part of your big day could potentially ruin it for you and everyone else involved. My sister is my best friend and I knew I wanted her as my maid of honor, but I felt bad choosing her over my other sister who I'm not as close with. I knew they'd both be in my bridal party but I felt like one as MOH and one as a bridesmaid would cause drama. So I asked my other sister to be matron of honor (since she's already married) and my FSIL as a bridesmaid. Ultimately, I almost wished we had skipped wedding parties, just because we have small ones as it is and I feel like my other sister just isn't as excited the other two. I would extend the offer to her to be a part of the wedding party, and if she accepts and later on starts to cause problems, you may have to make the decision to boot her. At the end of the day, this is YOUR wedding and as much as all of us brides wanna keep everyone in our families happy, sometimes you just can't please everyone. I hope it works out for the best!

If you don't really want her as a bridesmaid, what about giving her some other kind of role? Would you be opposed to her doing a reading or acting as a greeter?

I don't agree that blood relations automatically obligates you to include them in the bridal party. My dad wanted me to have my sister as a BM, but I chose not to because I don't have that close of a relationship with my sister. It's completely up to you. I believe bridal parties should be only your nearest and dearest!

My advice: don't do it. I felt forced to ask my sister to be in my wedding party and I regret it. If you feel itll be nothing but drama, I'm sure you're right. If she was nice to you she would have deserved a place in your party. If she brings it up just tell her she's not in it cause she's drama

You should never choose someone for your bridal party out of obligation--to your parents or anyone. You should only choose the people you feel closest to in life. Being family doesn't automatically guarantee you a spot in siblings' weddings.

I've read so many stories about brides who choose their BMs out of obligation, and end up totally regretting it. Please don't be one of those brides.

I guess all of our siblings technically had roles. My brother escorted my mom to her seat. My sister was a bridesmaid.
His brother was best man, his other brother carried in the icons, his sister was also a bridesmaid.
His mom was so upset that he didnt choose the other brother as a groomsman. But everybody ended up with a role somewhere. If you could include your sister in something like reading, or ushering maybe that would be a good compromise.

I would ask her to help in some other way. There are a lot of things that will come up that you need help with on your wedding day, just pick one that seems appropriate for her when the time comes. Your other option is to ask her, and keep her BM duties to simply showing up in a dress. She doesn't have to participate in anything else that your other two sister may be doing.

I wouldnt if your not close and specially if shes going to be trouble/ drama its your and your FH day no one elses . If anything maybe give her things to do to help to let her try to be part of the wedding but not in it lol. Im not close with my oldest sister either and she isnt going ro be in my wedding nor at my wedding bc shes well its complicated. Shes not good news and would be hell if she even showed up lets just say that. But if yours is tolerable then o would maybe have her help in certain ways to make her feel like part of it without a title is all..its your choice in the end what will make you happy and comfortable

Maybe include her in another way, like helping address invitations or planning your shower or asking her to give a speech.

No, she need not be in the bridal party. But it would be nice if you had her do a toat, or a reading g, showing she too has a role, just a different one. And neither of those jobs has any ongoing drama of shopping for dresses, planning parties or not. But your dad will smile to see all of you in the wedding in some way .

It’s not his day in all due respect! This day is about you! You do what makes YOU happy ... Just because she is your sister does not mean she’s ENTITLED!

I have a split family. My dad had a previous marraige & 2 Kids. While my brother is a waste of space, my sister and I get along just enough to be in the same room, sometimes. My kid brother is in the wedding party, and for a minute I felt bad that my older sisters in it but honestly? It's my day and with her not in the wedding party, if she decides to have an episode & freak? She doesn't have to be there. Plain & Simple. Chose who YOU want.

If you aren't close with her then don't add her. People are always adding people to their wedding party out of sheer obligation and regretting it. It's your wedding. Don't let anyone else pressure you into doing what you don't want to do. If anything the most I'd have her do is hand out programs or something small so you can appease the family but definitely don't make her in your bridal party

I agree with the majority of previous poster friends. Don't include your 3rd sister out of obligation. I have a situation with my youngest sister, and she is no longer a bridesmaid. I'm sort of happy how things worked out in terms of that, because she's full of drama. People have been trying to get me to reconsider... but there's nothing to think about! This is going to be me and fh's special day, and I don't need anyone ruining it. It's harder when it's blood. Some folks were even asking me to make my "step sister" more like my dad's step daughter a bridesmaid. I told them heck no! I don't even talk to the girl at ALL! I see her one every few years. Why would I make her a bridesmaid? Just because of a familial tie? Heck no! So don't feel like you're obligated because you're not!! I hope you have happy planning and 0 drama!!