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Mrs. A & J
Master December 2014

Do I HAVE to have ushers?

Mrs. A & J, on October 13, 2014 at 5:08 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

Are ushers that important? We can't really think of anyone to ask.

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Latest activity by Lauren, on November 3, 2014 at 4:20 PM
  • Sarah
    Master October 2014
    Sarah ·
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    I got married this past Saturday. We did not have ushers. My uncle was a greeter at the entrance of the chapel. We let people sit where they wanted to for the ceremony.

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  • F
    VIP October 2014
    FutureMrsS ·
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    We aren't having them

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  • KM
    Master March 2015
    KM ·
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    You don't HAVE to have anyone or anything except you, your man, and someone to marry you.

    So...no.

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  • Kylene
    VIP October 2014
    Kylene ·
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    We do not have them. There is a doorman at our venue to welcome everyone and when they arrive there will be some servers walking around with champagne to greet them. They walk directly into the ceremony room upon arrival so there will be no question about where they need to go. An announcement will be made when it's time to sit ... no need for them.

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  • DFG2014
    Super November 2014
    DFG2014 ·
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    You dont! but it is nice! we have very uneven sides so i am having ushers to help even them out!

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  • Mrs. A & J
    Master December 2014
    Mrs. A & J ·
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    Awesome. I wanted to make sure I wasn't making some big faux paus by not having someone specific to escort my mom, his mom, etc. Thanks all!

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  • Rachel
    Super August 2015
    Rachel ·
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    We're not having ushers, but I hadn't really thought about my mom. I think I'll just have her walk down with my step-dad and they can just sit down together. Maybe if you want to have someone escort your mom and his mom ask a male family member to do it.

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  • Mrs. A & J
    Master December 2014
    Mrs. A & J ·
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    Rachel, that's what I was thinking. FMIL can just walk in with her husband (we'll tell them where to sit beforehand), and my mom can just walk in with my brother and sit, since they'll already be there for pics. My venue is open with multiple entrances, so it seems silly to place someone specifically for seating guidance!

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    No. you can have his GM direct your guests BUT your moms should be escorted.

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  • Mrs.Temme
    VIP September 2014
    Mrs.Temme ·
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    I never even considered it. In my opinion, only very large and formal weddings have ushers, but even a casual small wedding can have them if the bride and groom want them.

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  • TweedleDeedleDee
    Dedicated August 2015
    TweedleDeedleDee ·
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    There is no rule that says you have. I am having two females friends as my ushers but not to direct persons to the groom or brides side. My wedding is going to be mostly DIY. And they are familiar with the church, can give directions to bathrooms and other amenities. They will also be securing gifts/cards from any guests that bring gifts to the ceremony in a special room in the church. As well as distributing wedding programs and manning the guest book.

    So i didn't have to have ushers but they can be(will be) useful.

    It's all up to the type of wedding you are having and if you see the need for them.

    Another reason i saw someone having ushers for seating was that the middle aisle was closed for entry into the pew due to the decorations. So they were directing persons to the side aisles to enter the pew.

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  • Lauren
    Super October 2014
    Lauren ·
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    You don't have to. We had ushers but the only duty they performed was to walk my mom and a single grandmother down the aisle (and that's something you can ask the groomsmen to do too!).

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