Do i have to give nieces and nephews a plus one?

Since it seems like your venue space limited I d very firmly say you d love your niece to join but due to space restrictions none of the nieces and nephews are being invited with a plus one. Best of luck.

It is your wedding. You should not have to do anything you don't want to.

Who's telling you that you must invite nieces and nephews? I doubt it's anyone who should have any say. I'd stand your ground and help it be the wedding you want it to be. I'm sad to hear so many people are trying to make it their wedding. I can't even imagine telling someone they "must" do anything for their special day including who to invite. Ridiculous of them. Please make it your day and cut ties if people are not willing to abide by that. If someone gets pushy then they just de-invited themselves imo. Respect yourself and don't have kids.

Reviewing comments here I'm appalled people are telling you that you "should" invite partners. No, she doesn't need to do anything. It's her wedding and she can invite whomever she wants. I cannot believe people are responding this way to your inquiry. Wow! I am trying to maintain my composure but this is truly outrageous. No one needs to do anything on their wedding day.

Your family doesn't get to demand anything. It is your wedding. Make it 100% how you want it to be. Please don't listen to people here telling you what you "should" do. It's very rude of them and your family to insist on making it THEIR day and not yours. You get to decide how you want it to go. I'm shocked people are responding with these entitled attitudes here. No one should be telling you how to run your own wedding!!! Rules shmules. YOU are in charge.

In this case, partners means married and long-term, not random +1s. It would be bad manners to invite one half of a couple to watch your commitment ceremony. Some may interpret that as the couple invalidating their commitment to save money. In this case, it's a venue space issue. I expect OP will get declines as it's rather offensive, or the night will be cut short. Personally, I'd disinvite the children using Rosebud's kinder line, and invite the couples who are her actual friends. The night is supposed to be joyful and romantic.

This is an etiquette board. We're not going to agree or validate when someone has a plan that is rude to their guests.

The wedding day is no longer just yours once you involve other people. Once that happens, their needs and comforts need to be respected.

OP, you are really between a rock and a hard place. If RSVPs are already due then you've by now already offended those with SOs whom you excluded, and you'd stand to seriously offend your nieces and nephews by disinviting them at the last minute. It's not their fault that the rest of the family pushed you or that you agreed. One rudeness doesn't justify another.

You don't have to invite anyone you don't want to and you certainly don't need to give anyone a plus one. No kids at a wedding is a very reasonable boundary to hold, and why would kids get a plus one anyway? Your brother sounds very entitled.

I think you are misunderstanding the definition of a "plus one". A plus one is a platonic friend or a family member, etc. that a guest invites to accompany them because they do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend.

You wrote: "When my family demanded we invite the kids we had to modify the guest list and removed all plus ones except for someone who’s been together for 8 years"

People who have been in a relationship for less than 8 years are NOT plus ones. The length of time a couple has been dating is not at all relevant. The bride and groom should never set arbitrary time limits on how long a couple has been together in order to consider them worthy of an invitation to accompany their spouse to the wedding. This is incredibly rude and disrepectful. You are asking them to take time out of their schedules, dress up, buy you a present, and attend an event that is celebrating your relationship..... while you are disregarding/disrespecting theirs. Huge no no. ALL boyfriends and ALL girlfriends of any adult should be invited - no matter how long they have been dating.

Your brother is out of line demanding you extend invites to his minor children's friends. Not only would I not cave to that pressure, but I would also not invite any children (since that is what you and your FH want for your wedding), if you haven't already done so. BUT, all guest's SO's should absolutely be invited - not just those that have been in "long term" relationships, or those that have been together for 8+ years.