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Do I HAVE to get my future in-laws a gift?

Mrs Gray, on August 14, 2014 at 1:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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My FMIL has made wedding planning nothing but hell. From sending my mom hate-mail to insisting that certain people come (or else she wouldn't) to criticizing every. single. decision. we made! She is "hosting" the rehearsal dinner which we are thankful for, but she has always held it over our heads like "We didn't HAVE to do it" and "It's putting us out soooooo much to do it". I also don't think she is planning to give us a wedding gift either (What's the etiquette on that?). We are giving FMIL and FFIL a corsage and boutonniere. We are also paying for the tux for the ring bearer that she insisted on being in the wedding party. So.....yay or nay? If I get them something teensy what should it be?

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Latest activity by Kendra , on August 14, 2014 at 2:17 PM

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Ashlee · on August 14, 2014 at 1:47 PM
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My fmil has given me and fh such a hard time on things too and nothing but a headache with her. I bought my parents gifts from me and im leaving it up to fh to give his parents gifts. Its terrible to say but i do not want anything coming from me that is not true., and anything lovey dovey or nice would be a lie. So i told FH to get his parents his own gifts and i gave my parents gifts and thats how we are doing it! I already bought all my gifts, fh has not yet.
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Manders · on August 14, 2014 at 1:48 PM
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We absolutely did not get DH's parents a gift. We gave my parents gift cards (because we ran out of time lol) but they also chipped in to pay for things and helped out a TON with my kids the day of the wedding.
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kylie.monika · on August 14, 2014 at 1:49 PM
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You don't HAVE to do anything. If she wants to rant that she didn't HAVE to host the rehearsal dinner then you can pull the same card.

If I was you I wouldn't get her anything just because of her attitude. She should be helping you graciously, not playing satan lol.
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Macksgirl · on August 14, 2014 at 1:50 PM
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At the very least, gift them a thank you card, because all bull shit aside...they are paying for your rehearsal dinner and that deserves a card. But honestly, I'd have a hard time doing anything more than that with the way they are treating you.
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Zzil · on August 14, 2014 at 1:52 PM
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I vote for a muzzle or a ball gag.

Seriously though, what about a photo frame (can be done cheaply enough).
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AndixLyn · on August 14, 2014 at 1:55 PM
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Thank them in the toast and be done with it. i wont get my FMIL a gift, if FH wants to he can. i can't even get the woman to wear shoes when she leaves the house. ugh.
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FutureMrsS · on August 14, 2014 at 2:09 PM
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I did what Ashlee did. I got gifts for my folks and he got gifts for his. I'm not really speaking to his folks at this point bc they are so awful.
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Emma · on August 14, 2014 at 2:14 PM
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My FMIL has been absolute hell ... even recently she tried to invite an extra FOUR people to the rehearsal dinner that my parents' are hosting at their home - not cool.

However, I did get her this really simple necklace and earrings set - it cost only like $15 lol. Honestly, she doesn't deserve anything more than that. She should be getting ME gifts ! haha.
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Kendra · on August 14, 2014 at 2:17 PM
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Glad Im not the only one who isnt doing gifts for the in-laws. They have not been horrible, by all means....but they sure haven't been any help either.
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