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Do I get a corsage for my Fiance's Dad's live in girlfriend?

Alexia, on April 8, 2015 at 2:38 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

I am not sure if I need to get my Fiance's Dad's live-in girlfriend a corsage or not. They plan on getting married some day, and are very serious. She gets me a Christmas present every year; but my Fiance doesn't consider her "family". He likes her very much, but we have divorced and remarried families to buy corsages for. That's a lot of grandmas, moms, and step moms... His dad may be offended, or may not even realize the tradition. I'm just not sure. Our budget is tight and I am trying to save costs wherever I can. that being said, if I had an unlimited budget, I would get one for her out of kindness alone... please help.

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Latest activity by Alexia, on November 12, 2015 at 6:50 PM
  • Janeen
    Master January 2015
    Janeen ·
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    I'm not trying to be offensive, but corsages are like $15. I, personally, would pay the $15 because this isn't something worth stressing over.

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  • MS4
    Super September 2015
    MS4 ·
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    One corsage won't make or break your budget. I think you need to include her, or just give corsages/boutonnieres for your moms, dads, and grandparents, with no step-parents and step-grandparents included. (It's everyone in a circle or no one.)

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    It would be a very nice gesture for the little it costs.

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  • Amy
    Expert May 2015
    Amy ·
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    I'd definitely get it. She might feel terribly left out if you don't. She's pretty much family - and is very much so to FH's dad. Sounds like she's been pretty good to you. Go for it.

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  • Tara
    VIP April 2015
    Tara ·
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    We're not getting one for FMIL's boyfriend/fiance, but they haven't been together very long and we don't know him very well. If it would matter to your dad, just do it.

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  • Finally Mrs. F
    Super November 2015
    Finally Mrs. F ·
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    Yes, I definitely would get her a corsage. She gets you Christmas presents, is living with your FFIL and your wedding isn't for over a year. By that time it would seem pretty rude to not have one. I'm a little confused though, who are all these other people you are getting wedding flowers for? If other remarried/divorced couples are getting corsages she definitely should. Try price checking around your area and going with local flower shops. I found that after I took a step back and actually looked up florists I got better prices (compared with strictly wedding shops).

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  • MrsA
    Master October 2015
    MrsA ·
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    I would get here one.

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  • S
    Super September 2015
    stephybear84 ·
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    FH did not want one for his dad's wife. They along well enough but since she is younger then FH he doesn't feel right about it.

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  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    Before we announced our wedding this past November, DH decided, out of respect for his mother, he did not want his father's new wife (10 years younger than me and relationship started while he was still married to his mother) at the wedding. So we met with him and told him. He was very upset and said if she was not invited, he would not come and he did not attend. Now that we are having a ceremony, his father wants her to sit up front with our mothers. I made it very clear, she is invited, but she absolutely WILL NOT sit with our mothers, be escorted in, be in the family photos, or be acknowledged in any way. The only way she will have a corsage, he will have to purchase it. He is not happy at all, but it is what it is.

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  • jenna_
    Master March 2015
    jenna_ ·
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    I agree with the other girls. It's such a small extra cost for one less thing to worry about. And I'm sure she would really appreciate the gesture.

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  • 714HBLady
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    714HBLady ·
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    FH's dad and mom are not together. FH did not want to get a corsage for FFIL's wife, but I thought it was appropriate since they have been together for several years. I wanted to make sure we did not offend FFIL, so we got one. It's a small thing, but I would rather not have drama BECAUSE of something so small.

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    Just Said Yes October 2016
    Alexia ·
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    Thanks everyone! I knew I wanted to get her one, but I needed the backup. It's not a huge cost, and I think it's a nice gesture. He says only people who helped raise him should get a corsage (i.e. mothers and grandmothers.) She'll be getting a corsage.

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