Do I cancel my wedding? What would you do?!?

I wouldn't cancel. If it were me, I'd want to be married before the baby is born. I also imagine it being more difficult having a newborn and planning a wedding. Plus, you'll lose a lot of money likely by cancelling and with a new baby you'll probably want that money. That's just me though. I also am not a drinker so I don't understand that being part of your reasoning.

You could always have a courthouse wedding sooner and then have a celebration after the baby is born.

I would keep the date or move it up if possible. However I do have a sister who getting married in July 2018 and had a baby this past April. She is managing raising a newborn and planning a wedding just fine!

Is money a factor? If I were to get pregnant right now we would have to scale back and reconsider our planning just for the sake of saving for all the costs associated with being pregnant plus raising a baby.

I agree with @Alforev. I think it would be better to have the wedding before the baby as opposed to after. Bridal maternity gowns are also a thing, so you can keep your wedding date without pushing it earlier so you can fit into something.

I've kept my guests in the loop they understand. No travel arrangements have been made. That's another issue .. I have to give them

Ample time to plan for travel arrangements if we're having a DW.

We were able to get some of our money back from the planning at PR since it was an unusual circumstance

I do love the idea of being married before the baby is here .. I guess I'm now wondering about the timing of the reception.

Is getting married at the courthouse now an option? (And congrats!) It would be easier to buy a dress off the rack now than worry about what you're going to wear when you're 8 months pregnant.

@spaghetti that's good for your sister and I didn't mean for my comment to be taken as it's impossible to plan a wedding, but I just imagine it wouldn't be as easy as not having a baby. Life in general becomes harder with a child because that child's needs should always take priority.

Thanks ! Getting married at the courthouse is an option. I already purchased my wedding dress but I know I'll have to get something off the rack if I wait too long . ... decisions. Decisions...

There are plenty of options between going to the courthouse and having a big destination wedding. I did one last night, planned in less than two months; backyard (they were also considering a restaurant), 45 guests, two musicians, me, a gorgeous dress, catering with a beautiful cake.

It was really lovely. Something to consider.

Not to take away from courthouse weddings, which are absolutely as real as any other kind of wedding, but while it's perfect for some couples (the NYC courthouse is really pretty and th clerks kick some serious ceremony butt), it's not everyone's idea of what their wedding would be like.

I'd probably get married now, do something simple, and then do a celebration later on!

Thank you all!

You can always do a small wedding now (I would consider local) and then a vows renewal after a year or two, then you can have the big wedding you've been planning for. Regardless of what you do, congratulations on the pregnancy!

I would absolutely not risk going to PR 7-8 months pregnant.

I wouldnt be doing a destination wedding that far into your pregnancy but I definitely would think about doing something local to the states (non zika zones) if that date is that important.

Congrats!

One of my coworkers went through a very similar situation (got pregnant after they got engaged). They decided they wanted to be married when the baby came, so they got married basically courthouse-style (we have a friend who is ordained) and on their one-year anniversary they're going to through a bigger wedding similar to their original plan.

It's up to you, but I would keep the wedding date. I planned a wedding with a young child -- it's hard!

I'd do the courthouse on 4/1/18 but still plan the reception like u said