Do i attend during the pandemic?

We are going to a wedding in August that I'm assuming will be over a hundred people given that my FI is cousins with the groom, so we aren't exactly on the list of VIPs and we are still invited. It'll be about an 8 hour drive for us. I'm not worried about attending and am actually kind of excited.

300-400 people is considerably more. Not sure how I'd feel if it were that many, although I guess I don't really know how many this will have. Ultimately it's your call. If you don't feel comfortable attending, don't feel pressured to.

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It's in Indiana. For those interested, the guidelines are here: https://backontrack.in.gov/files/BackOnTrack-IN_WhatsOpen-Closed-stage5.pdf

That is a lot of people! I honestly wouldn’t go. I think if you communicate effectively and within time she would understand.

I certainly wouldn’t go. That it’s in a low-count area is totally irrelevant if people are coming in from other places. The bride should be understanding, not offended.

Absolutely not. No no no.

I’m honestly surprised they are allowed to move on with a wedding of that size. But then again most places are allowed to operate events at 50% capacity. Maybe their venue is huge!


Like many others mentioned above, if you don’t feel comfortable you shouldn’t go. You will not enjoy yourself and I’m sure any bride (including myself) during these Covid times will understand. We all want to have our day after many planning efforts and money that has already been paid and will not be returned if you cancel or postpone. If you are really close to the bride maybe you could kindly reach out and see what her rsvp list looks like. Most couples are currently cutting their guest list and also a lot of guests are canceling themselves because they don’t feel comfortable attending large events. So maybe they might not end up with that many guests.

Talk about a super spreader event. This is how cases spike in areas that "don't have a lot of cases." 300-400 is totally irresponsible and I would definitely not go to a wedding like that.

I would go personally but that's just me. The virus has a very very very small chance of producing an ARDS/serious complications.

That being said, everyone has different levels of comfort. If you don't feel comfortable attending, politely decline, send a nice gift, and offer to get together with the bride and groom sometime after the wedding to celebrate.

I would pass on attending in person,if she is willing to stream it online I would virtually attend. I'm curious what state are they in that they are allowing that many people to gather?