Do I add kids to my guest list

Nope; the only kids I'm having are the ring bearer and FG and they are mine anyway. Lol

We're having kids. We might have 25 kids if they're all brought. I like all of these kids and I like the idea of including them in our big day. We're even having a kids activity station.

But plenty of people don't. It's up to you and your FH.

I originally wasn't going to include my cousin's children for the same reason as you. I have a big family, and it would add a lot to the guest list. However, FH's grandma sort of insisted on adding "&Family" to some of the invites on their side, and I came to the realization/conclusion that it would be more complicated to not invite them. Less of my cousins would come (and some who can't come rely on their parent, who is my aunt, to take care of the kids, so they'd have to come). It seemed like more of a hassle to not invite them. Besides, I really like my cousin's kids and I did want them there.

I'm inviting kids, most are my 5 nephews, and FH's one son, and then I have some younger cousins etc. I really don't have any problems with kids being at weddings. I don't see a wedding as a chance to get shit-faced and sloppy and those with kids typically leave earlier before people do that anyway. They're family, and they're important to me, that's why we're inviting them. I have also never seen any kids at a wedding that weren't behaving, but I think it depends on the circle.

Yes to kids because they are family and our wedding wouldn't be a wedding without them.

Your wedding has nothing to do with inviting kids; it has to do with you getting married to your spouse. If you can't afford them/ don't want them, then don't invite them. There are parties that go on all over the country on any given weekend and kids are left at home. I don't understand, honestly, why this should be any different. They usually do NOT want to be there, you have to pay for them, their parents will not be able to have a night out and I can promise you that the percentage of your photographs that include kids will amaze you.

Not every event is meant to be attended by children. Most weddings qualify as that kind of event.

As for the 'no one under 18" line; every invite should have specific names on it.

Sure. You have to. And bring for them some candy and other things In other cases they get bored

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LOL....One of my venues has a sign next to their life size, outdoor chess set that says, "Any children found moving the chess pieces will be given espresso and a puppy".