Do guests over 18 but living with their parents receive a seperate invite?

Sorry, but 18 doesn't magically make someone an adult (legally yes, but I'm not the government). I drew the line at whether they're independent. If they're at home, no job, life fully financed by mom and dad, they aren't adults (I have a niece and two nephews this applies to). They went on the parents' invitation.

My nephew who has a full time job, still lives at home but pays rent to his parents, and has a girlfriend got his own invitation though.

For our (small) guest list, there were a few 18+ who lived at home. We addressed the invitation to the household. If they were coming, it would be as a family group anyway.

Yeah I know plenty of 18 year olds who are not adults haha. I think it's a good rule of thumb, but if they are 100% dependent on their parents and I think they are going to lose the invite or not send back the RSVP, I'd just send it with the parents.

I lived at home when I was 18, worked 2 jobs went to my secondary school classes and some Community College classes. I would have been totally offended if I hadn't been invited on a separate invite from my parents to any event. There are lots of reasons people choose to live at home at 18, it's not your place to judge.

Personal anecdote: I sent a separate invitation to each of my 2 cousins that still live with their parents.

Since you're all about anecdotes-

My brother got married while I was in college. I received (at my college mailing address) a separate invitation addressed to myself and my SO at the time.

*Sidebar: this is proper. This is what you are supposed to do.*

I really appreciated it, especially since my brother is significantly older and our relationship was strained because he continued to treat me like a kid when I was a teenager and an adult.

A few months later I learned that the only reason I got my own invitation was because my dad called my brother and yelled at him for not doing it that way. My original invitation was lumped in with my parents and my SO hadn't been included. I was 21 at the time.

It hurt my feelings that he didn't consider me to be an adult until my dad told him that I was. Technically I still lived with my parents because I didn't own or rent a home elsewhere, but I went to school in a different state and had studied abroad in another country. It really hurt that I wasn't seen as a guest in my own right, just an add-on to the grooms parents.

Invite adults to your wedding.

Also, as a sleep deprived parent of a small child now, I'm more likely to forget to RSVP or lose your invite than I was at 18.

It depends on the level of dependency of the young adult. When I was away at college and my cousin got married she sent the invitation to my mom's address, she included a separate response card for me and my current boyfriend, and I wasn't offended.

It is proper etiquette but in my opinion a waste of money. I'm not sending four invitations to one house!

Yes

"separate" (not being snarky)

@PerfectlyPolin-if I was the person over 18 that didn't receive a separate invite, you would hear about it in no uncertain terms about your crassness, from myself, my family and whomever else in your family it was bitched to.

Yes, everyone over 18 gets their own invite. That being said, I have some who are off at school, and I had no idea what their address is at college, so I included them on their parents invite. Bad, bad, bad, but it was easiest for me. I know lazy.

I would just include them all on one invitation. I don't think an 18 year old will care

Yes, they do get their own invitation. You bet I noticed when I (18 at the time) was listed along w my brother (21!!) under my parents' invite to a family member's wedding. Ugh.

I was living with my mother when my cousin got married and I got my own invite. I was 19. Free food and booze, I promptly RSVPed yes to that!

I agree with Natalie D.

Someone else mentioned that they'd be coming as a family anyway. Not true at all. I was living at home when I was invited to a cousin's wedding and my mother and I drove separately. I had a final paper for an online class due that night and was unable to stay for the reception. I honestly think it's pretty fucked up that people seem to look down on people who are over 18 that live at home. The "dependency" of the person doesn't matter. They don't pay rent so they're not enough of an adult by your standards? It doesn't make them less of an adult. It doesn't change their birthdate.

This is along the same lines of saying that people who haven't been together for X amount of time won't have their SO be invited by name.

Can I piggy back off this question? I know its rude to break up families to invite them to the wedding, but is it rude that if you have one 18 year old in the house hold, and one 16 year old to include the 16 year old in the family invite and separate for the 18 year old?

*I have not sent out invites yet, and plan on doing the 18 and older invite, but just a genuine etiquette question

Thanks @Sarah!

Everybody over 18 gets their own. However it seems silly to send 3 or 4 invites to the same address.