DJ .. to leave bad review or not at all

Songs of the night and he messed that up..not to mention make an announcement that it's unplugged once the ceremony begun...we told the first thing before the 1st ceremony song should be played. These were simple things and I sent him the songs to play. We absolutely downgraded his tip and gave his original to our photographers asst who deserved it. I read a lot of backlash about negative reviews on here and I did see a couple bad ones last night when I got home on his profile. He asked me at the end of the night to make a review to get new clients but I don't think I should if it's bad. What would you do?

Going to the chapel wth? Why would a vendor get us a gift or card? Actually not difficult at all. I did most of the work. He just had to play the songs we wanted and not mess up so many times as I later found out he has done to past people.

Review. I'm a heavy review person, either reading or leaving them. (I try to leave both good and bad reviews.) This is the only way you can express your displeasure and maybe save someone else from having the same problems.

Punctuation and grammar are your friends. Your first post made no sense at all. If whatever you wrote for your introduction was anything you wrote in your post I would have called you out for your incorrect grammar as well.

Yes, you should review. But try to be objective - focus on what he actually did wrong, and not just the emotions of it because it was your wedding day. As someone who pays close attention to reviews for various things, an emotional/dramatic review makes me not quite believe what the person is writing. State the facts.

Honestly, you do seem a little bit difficult just off reading your post.

But, if you actually gave him clear, easy to follow instructions and he ignored them, then go ahead and leave a review.

But as far a playing songs at certain times or playing them when you're not in the room, that's not really a fair critique, as he probably couldn't follow your location all night and still do his job effectively.

But, he definitely shouldn't have messed pronunciations, if you told him in advance of how to say it. You should've left phonetic spellings for him to avoid that happening.

We wanted to be introduced for example as Mr and Mrs Joe and Linda Smith. That's how we were introduced at the end of the ceremony. I left so many phonetic spellings for him he still messed up. We did give pretty simple instructions and didn't follow through. Our DJ was the only disappointment in our vendor choices.

Review him but proof read it, make it factual and use proper grammar and punctuation. Maybe it's still early, but your posts are very hard to follow.

If you communicate in real life like you do here- I wouldn't have done anything you said either- because half of it makes no sense.

part of their job is to read the room. Granted if there is a time line he should have been following it. But it's not his job to keep track of you for "do play" songs outside of your dance music- is he just supposed to wait around for you to shop up then play your songs and stop them when you leave?

I think you needed to evaluate your expectations- and then evaluate what happened and how the party went- leave an honest review and say you weren't entirely satisfied- but don't review him based off what you wrote here- that would just be... egregiously unfair.

The way this is worded it sounds like you were very limiting on how your DJ was to perform. Did you say no requests were to be taken? Maybe your guests requested a rap song and he obliged. Providing a DJ a play by play of how you want your music played defeats the purpose of a DJ. You would have been better off with a boombox and Spotify list. Him messing up names and your entrance are things to be upset about but I don't know if I could write a review based on that alone

Honestly, it sounds like you probably gave too many directions and it may have been confusing. Playing songs on the do not play list is a fair critique. Not announcing the unplugged ceremony also sounds like a fair complaint. A lot of the rest does not sound like his fault though. Playing the songs that you asked for when you were not in the room? That happens. Letting you know that the way you wanted to be announced was not standard? Also fine so long as he actually did it the way you wanted him to. Playing songs later than you intended also seems more like a miscommunication than something he did wrong.

Shocking.

I can't understand most of what you posted so I'm going to go ahead and side with your DJ. It sounds like you gave a lot of complicated instructions.

I kind of agree with Rachael. A DJ should be left be a DJ and do thier job. They rarely play all the time "play songs", ok they shouldnt really play songs you asked them not to, but was it something one of your guests asked for? Thier job is to read the crowd and play for them to entertain them. They can't watch out for when the couple are in the room and not in the room. Ok yes it is bad that he prounouned your names wrong. That would be annoying. You do sound like you have him a lot of instructions though. As others have said your post is VERY hard to make sense of, were your instructions clear to him? If you leave a review perhaps wait a while untill you calm down and try to leave and unbiased one, when your not still caught up in the emotions of the day.

Honestly, I cant even follow the OP. It sounds like you were a little difficult with him.

I think your review would be fair!

If I read your review, with the complaints you made I probably wouldn't acknowledge it. It seems like a lot of other factors came into play. It's not the DJ's responsibility to monitor your location at all times to make sure you're there before he plays the next song. Did you consider that perhaps a guest requested rap? Did your guests also complain that your DJ was awful?

Obviously if other people left negative reviews there is an actual issue, and that should be addressed, but some of the issues you mentioned seem like you could have just been way too specific with your demands.

I had some of the same issues with my DJ as well. However I addressed them with management the next day and they were very apologetic and wanted to make it right. Obviously screwing up during our first dance couldn't be given back.

At the end of it all my guests did have a great time so I decided to let go of the overall and chalk it up as he just had a rough night. I left a review that was good, but made mention of the bad things the DJ did.

Leave a review. Calmly lay out the facts of all the things he messed up. Don't exaggerate.

If he's a good DJ one bad review won't ruin his business, but it may inspire him to work harder next time.

I’m very confused with a lot of this post. • the only points I can agree with is he should have stuck to your timeline and he should have stuck with your “do not play list” but when I think of “rap,” I think of heavy rap music with cursing and explicit language which I doubt he just chose to play • I think if you communicated with your DJ like you are in here, I can see why he got confused. I can see why he would mess up the phonetic spelling of your name because, again, you sound very confusing • it’s not his job to make sure you’re in the room when he plays your “must play” list. That would be exhausting for him. H and I found ourselves in the bar during some of our favorite songs and we picked up our drinks and literally ran to the dance floor • he doesn’t have to play every single one of your “must play” songs. He is not a playlist. • your officiant, not your DJ should have announced the ceremony was unplugged • I’m not sure how many different versions of each song you sent him there are, but I highly doubt they differed that much • I feel very sorry for him and that you didn’t tip him appropriately. It sounds like it was confusing and a struggle to set this up with him. I don’t think you should leave a review because this isn’t 100% on you but hopefully grammar and punctuation will discredit you so the poor man can get another job. ETA - clarity - obviously he should absolutely play your “must play” songs BUT if your guests are having fun and making requests (as they should be), it’s natural some “must play” songs may be pushed out