Divorced Parents - Seating Chart

I sat my Fmil with some of my family and sat Fmil with his family. I kept them at different tables.

Depends how/if they get along. Maybe work on your FH family first, maybe pair siblings with one or both sets of his parents depending on how many. Does your dad get along with either of his parents? If he does I would have him sit with them. If that’s a no go, do you have any friends or family that he knows? I’ll have to face this soon too (my dad is widowed not divorced, but fH has divorced parents)

Can you seat your dad next to his dad? And the two moms together? And then fill in those tables with family members and/or friends you think they'd get along with best. If you're doing rounds, it would be great if each of your head family tables had equal billing. For example, if the best tables would be closest to your sweetheart table, see if you can arrange that two tables be in front of you--each of those could hold your parents. It sounds weird, but some immediately families may get ruffled over table placement so try to make it equal.

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Thank you! Its hard since my father hasn't met FH family. My father barely knows my friends.

I feel sick even thinking about the assign tables honestly.

The sweetheart table is brilliant for dealing with divorced parents! My stepfather wouldn't deal well with my father, so we also aren't doing a "parents table". Instead we're going to sit them with other family. Probaby intimate family (like our siblings) that live far away and they don't get to see as much.

My parents are divorced and with other people..but I have siblings and a nephew. So what I did was set my dad/his new wife/their baby (yeah I'm 32 with an infant half brother..and she's preggo again &#^$*#whatevs)..and my 2 sister's 1 bro in law and nephew at a table....then at the next table over I sat my mom and her BF, my daughter and filler friends/fam. So close enough that my kid and sisters didn't have to feel bad for being separate from one or the other, but enough padding that it shouldn't be uncomfortable for anyone! (Wedding is June 23rd, so we will see...lol)

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It's a pain (especially while waiting for RSVPs!) but really helpful to manage strained relationships. For our DW, we separated my parents but put each next to people they'd probably get along with. Just as we expected, my dad and DH's cousin were placed together and had so much fun meeting for the first time (they are so similar).

Plus, putting the right people together can add so much. At our local reception, if we couldn't pair guests with friends they already knew we created tables by age and interest: conservative, liberal/artists, sales. Worked brilliantly. The "sales" table got along so well, a few guests who didn't know each other went and partied after our reception! Cool to hear that.

We had our parents all at the same table (my parents are also divorced). I didn't want any of them to feel more/less important to us. This wouldn't work if my parents weren't totally cordial and they have been divorced for over 20 years so they don't have any recent wounds.

My FH has divorced parents who can hardly be in a room together. They are at separate tables. Since the wedding means my to fmil she is hosting a table at the very front with her family and then ffil has a table on the other side of the room with some of his family memembers and friends.

I like the idea of sitting your dad with his parents.....dudes can usually chew the fat with each other. Maybe you have a relative that you think your dad might like talking to? Don't stress about having a "parent's table."

I’m really struggling with how to make it work also. We both have divorced parents who are adult enough to be cordial but fsil (also a bridesmaid) hates her dad so it will be interesting to make it work.

My letting my mom/dad choose who she wants at her table. They aren't divorced but i think it helps if you ask who they want to sit with. Maybe sit each of your a FH divorced parents with each other. I only give that option, which i normally wouldn't but if your dad comes alone and its no other family member he would sit next to then it makes it hard. If it's anybody he is related to he could sit with them.

We also have two sets of divorced parents. Neither pair are super friendly towards each other. FH's parents are both in long-term relationships now, both of my parents are single. Both of our mothers still love hanging out with our dads' siblings, but the dads are both pretty unhappy about it. So. We're doing 4 parent tables. One for each parent, seated only with their own siblings/SOs/parents. Staggering the tables as his dad's, my dad's, his mom's, my mom's. Talk about a pain in the butt.