Divorced parents - rehearsal dinner

As adults, I would hope that they can act as such for your wedding. If your concerned I would express your concerns to them each separately before the wedding and let them know, in a polite way, that you would appreciate them being on their best behavior for 48 hours.

Yes, I am, but as you said, they're all adults.

Not to mention they probably don't want to be the relative your ILs talk about as being so immature during the festivities for their daughter's wedding.

I know that's the mindset my father and step-father are working under right now.

Not really the same thing, but my parents and my husband's parents don't like each other at all. They were very cordial to each other during the rehearsal and really didn't even talk to each other aside from polite greetings and brief small talk. Now that we have children, it's still the same except they have to see each other more often. Every time I get nervous I try to remember that 1) they're adults and can behave for a few hours and 2) any arguing/immature behavior is out of my control and only reflects poorly on them.

I'm sorry this is something that you have to worry about :/ Hopefully if there is enough of a crowd, your parents will be able to avoid each other just due to circumstance.

We are not having a rehearsal dinner, but for the wedding I'm seating my father and his gf at a different table from my mother.

I mean, if you're having a rehearsal, you have to have a dinner. So regardless of who hosts it, they'll have to be in the same room two nights in a row. No point in worrying about what's out of your control.

Me... and I'm placing their reserved tables on opposite sides of the room! Doesn't help the battle that my step dad is contributing significantly. I'm 28 years old, aren't we supposed to be past these kind of things?

My parents were never married and can barely tolerate one another. I can't remember a time when they actually liked each other. I've learned to keep them separate and ignore their shit. They stay on their best behavior when it comes to me or my sister because they know that we'd have a hard time forgiving them if they acted on their negative emotions in front of others.

My parents are divorced as well and trust me, it was not a happy ending for them. But I do expect them to put aside their differences for my wedding. They do not have to talk to eachother, just be cordile enough to stand in pictures and see each other in the same room. Considering they are your parents, they should want to do this for you.

I am sorry you are dealing with this. I can't relate. My parents have been divorced for 36 years and are completely over it. They've both been remarried. My mom twice. Are you sure they can't get along? It's been a really long time. They both should have moved on by now.