Divorced parents: invitation etiquette

Your mother should be on the invitation.

Let me ask this question, who is paying for your wedding? That can change things.

Oops, I just realized that you already stated that your Dad and Step Mom are paying.

Then, technically, they are the only ones listed on the invitation. However, if it is hurting your Moms feelings, you may want to go with "parents of."

"Together with their parents" solves most things.

Technically you're in the right but I don't think it's worth upsetting your mom.

My parents are paying & are married… FH's parents aren't contributing and are divorced. We did:

MOB & FOB invite you to join them at the marriage of their daughter

ME

to

FH

son of

MOG

and FOG

MOG is remarried, but we never considered adding her husband to the invite.

My dad and step mom are paying. And they all pretty much hate each other. I honestly wouldnt mind putting "the parents of" but i know that my dad and step mom want the "credit" for paying for the wedding.

Can never make everyone happy

I didn't put any parents names on. My FFIL is the one who is paying for all of our wedding and rather than have hurt feelings we just decided to put no names. Lucky for me though everyone knows to keep quite and say NOTHING about anything.

Yikes.

I wonder if you could do "Together with their parents" on the invitation, and then do a reception insert that says something like, "Mr. & Mrs. Brittneysdad invite you to join the happy couple for a reception at their home.....yada yada yada."

In a perfect world they should get over themselves and not use your wedding as a pissing contest. But I wonder if that might work????

Brittney, it depends on the wording.

For instance--

John Doe with his wife, Mary Doe invite you yadda yadda his daughter Brittney S.

is fine

But if it's

John Doe and Mary Doe invite you yadda yadda their daughter Brittney S.

that is unacceptable for obvious reasons

Typically it is the host who gets the credit

Resolve it by raising a glass to both of your parents at the reception (mention them individually with no spouses)

or select a reading for just them at your ceremony

Plenty of ways to include your mom to make her feel like part of the gang, unfortunately I don't see where she fits on the invite.

Planning your wedding is a fun thing, don't let these little hiccups get you down!

I am sorry that they do not get along. There is the beauty with my daughters wedding. My ex, his wife (I call her my Wife-in-law) and I get along. Whew!

Anyway, technically, it is the person(s) hosting who is on the invitation. As a mother, though, I know that I would be hurt if my name were left off.

As Kimberly posted, my daughters invitation listed not only the three of us, but also the MOG, even though she did not pay a penny for anything. She was simply on their as:

Name of Groom

Son of MOG

Thank you all for your sympathy! Maybe I will ask my dad & step mom if they are ok with putting "the parents of..." on the invitations going to my moms family? We are making our own invitations so that wouldnt be too hard to change a few words on some of the invites.

Its hard being in the middle, my dad & step mom are putting in a lot of time and money while my mom has not done a thing. They should get some recognition, but at the end of the day my mom is still my mom. I wish she would realize that, and that a wedding invitation shouldnt make it that she is not my mom. Its just reality that they are pay, hosting and helping me make the invites!

hmmppphhh