Divorced parents & ceremony procession

It sort of sounds like your mom may a little jealous (if thats the right word) that your father will be getting so much recognition. I plan on having my step father walk me down the isle and am going to have a "mother-daughter" dance at my reception. Shes the person that raised me until I was a teenager so I want that moment with her. I'm not really sure about the walking down the isle bit for you unfortunately. I lean towards having your father do it since you are his only daughter, and this will be his only chance. Are you your mothers only daughter also? (Not that it really makes a difference)

My parents are divorced and I had my mom and dad escort me together. I danced with my dad and my stepdad, so walking me down the aisle was really all there was for my mom, as far as "spotlight moments" go. My dad was completely fine with it. It's also standard in Jewish weddings (which I am) for both parents to escort both spouses down the aisle.

This is a decision that is and should be totally up to you! And do not let anyone make you feel guilty about your decision. Our mothers (including my step mother) processed in at the beginning of the ceremony after the grandmothers. Both my dad and my step dad walked me down the aisle. That is how I wanted it to be and I didn't care what anyone thought. Thankfully everyone supported me in my decision. Do what you feel comfortable with and make it known that the issues between your mom & your dad do not involve you and have no bearing on your decision. If mom throws a fit, she will look bad - not you!

I had my divorced parents both walk me down the aisle; I wouldn't have wanted it any other way!

Your story literally sounds like mine... How close is your FS with your mom? Could he dance with her and his mom instead? (Separately, of course) Additionally, I've also been to weddings where the B&G will thank their parents in a toast.

We are gifting roses to the mothers during our ceremony as a way to recognize them, during the same song after we do our unity ceremony.

Can you have both parents walk you down the aisle? Then they sit on opposite sides of the aisle? They would never have to interact and I'm sure could suck it up for a minute walk down the aisle. Then you still have your father daughter dance with him but honor both your parents in your walk down the aisle. Another option I've seen, is the bride & groom give their parent's a rose during the ceremony to thank them for getting to this point.

My parents are divorced and both like to act like babies. Luck for me I’m the 3rd and last kid getting married so I was a little more prepared to handle them. I decided to walk by myself. Not to be mean to either of them but I feel it important for me to give myself away. I will also have a mother daughter dance and a father daughter dance. But this is what will work best for my family.

Michelle you hit the nail on the head. That’s what makes this decision so hard - at first her request was genuine. To be included in a special moment and share that with me. Now there’s this edge of spite that seems like she wants to take this away from him. It feels like either way I go is a lose-lose situation. Either way someone’s feelings are going to be hurt. Which is definitely taking away from a special moment. I am also my moms only daughter as well.

Mandi I agree completely. If I don’t include her I know there’s going to be a fight, which is so not right.

During our ceremony our officiant does something special with the moms where he lets them give us our “last kiss” as single people since they were the first to kiss us when we were born. Which is sweet - just don’t know if it will feel like enough for my mom. Either way I’m sad to not include my mom or I’m sad to feel like something is being taken away from my dad.

Could you have one walk you halfway and then the other the rest of the way? That way they both get to do it.

I think you should think about what you want to do instead of what the "right" choice is. Do you want mom and dad to both walk you down the aisle? Then have at it. If not, you could choose to honor mom in some other way, maybe dance together at the reception? Gift her something during the ceremony? If you choose to do none of the above, it's not like you are purposely leaving your mom out of a tradition she would normally be part of and she should understand that.

View Quoted Comment I plan to do the same.

Hi Christine! Congrats on your marriage! How did this work out? Hope all is well!