Divorced Parents and Step-parents

My husbands parents are divorced. They get along fine but we still didn’t seat all parents at the same table. Dad and stepmom with their family members at one table. Mom and stepdad with their family members at one table. And my parents with their family at another.

Personally, I think it is a shame that your FH's mom can't put aside her feelings for one day. I know you didn't really ask about the ceremony, BUT If it were me, I'd let the step mom be escorted into the ceremony by FH's dad (since they are married), and have FH's mom escorted by her spouse, a sibling, or other close family member. For the reception, instead of having a parents table, you can reserve a few tables for immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.) and let them sit at different tables that are still close, but not at the same table. IF FH's mom complains, ask her to politely put aside her feelings for y'all's big day.

As much as I'd love to say they should be adults and suck it up at one table, you don't need to deal with that fallout. I might suggest trying to sit the parents with their family members if possible. So if you're inviting mom's sister, put them together, and dad's mom can be at another table with him. I do hope it all works out for you.

Hi honey. I have the same situation with my dad and step dad. My dad doesn’t mind, but my step dad doesn’t want to sit near my dad. So childish, i know. But i defiantly would not separate a married couple. I’m making two family tables so my dad & step mom have their own table with his parents and my mom & step dad have theirs with her parents. That way everyone is happy and separated! Lol Good luck!

My parents are divorced - dad's remarried and mom has a long term boyfriend. I know they'd be civil if we seated them together, but I also know that it'd be awkward and probably not worth it. So each set of parents gets their own table. It should actually work out since FH has some aunts and uncles coming who can fill out his parent's tables, and I have enough family and family friends to at least mostly fill out the other two.

I and my fiancé both have lots of angry parents, stepparents, and stepgrandparents. I would not do a parents table. I’m doing a table for my fmil and her guests and my mom, a table for his dad and family and my stepdad, a table for my dad and his wife and stepsons. Angry grandparents at their own tables as well. I’m sure it’s nice to do a parents table for people with families who are friendly or still together, but sometimes that is just not an option.

My parents are divorced and we had 3 "family" tables. A table for my mom/sister/grandparents/great aunt/mom's best friend and her husband, a table for my husband's parents/grandparents/aunt and uncle/godparents, and a table for my dad and stepmom/cousins. My husbands parents' table was directly in front of us and my dad's table was on the left of theirs and my mom's was to the right.

My parents are divorced and, like the above poster, we had 3 parent tables. They were the closest to our sweetheart table. Husband's parents in the middle table. My dad and stepmom at the table on the left. My mom at the table on the right.

Im in the same boat. Fhs parents divorced. Dad got remarried 16 years ago and the new wife and my FHs mom dont particularly like each other. I knew FHs dad and his new wife would be sitting together. I had another issue, cause FH has a sister, so I was split with do I sit her with her mom or her dad. I knew they wouldnt be at the same table. Now everyone is simply at another table. There are lots of other fam members coming, so for us its fine to just sit them all at different tables.

My FH parents are divorced but all parents have their own table, so we have 3 parent tables. My parents are at a table with their immediate family and both my FH parents are at a different table with their immediate family (their kids, parents, siblings) I thought that would be best.

1. At the ceremony, the parent who the bride or groom lived with for the most part (usually the mom, but not always) get first dibs on the front aisle seat. His or her spouse or SO sits with her, and it is up to her if the other parent/SO shares the front row. If Ok with her, consideration should be given to dad walking bride to the front, then sitting on the far aisle with his wife. He/she may prefer sitting row back. In no event does the primary custodial parent get pushed in. In Jewish weddings, both parents, even if divorced, escort bride and groom and stand at Chuppah with them. Some non Jews are following this now. You can have dad escort his wife to their seats, and then someone else escort mom.

2. At ceremony, I would recommend 3 different parent tables.

3. Even if not generally giving plus ones, if one parent does not have a SO, I would make an exception for a parent, esp if other parent has remarried.