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Brianna
Just Said Yes June 2020

Divorced parents and procession etiquette

Brianna, on March 9, 2020 at 10:55 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 9
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Hey y’all,

My fiancé’s parents are divorced and we’re having trouble deciding on how to do the procession with his family. We want to remain respectful, but he has a very strained relationship with his dad and step mom and we don’t want to falsely portray that their relationship is fine. If the relationship was fine, he would walk his stepmom down the aisle with his dad following behind them. If that’s the most polite way to do it, we will. But we feel like it would be fake.

At the same time, we don’t want to do anything too different in their procession to draw attention to the strained relationship.

If anyone has any advice on what we could do, we would gladly appreciate it!tenor.gif

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Latest activity by Katie, on January 7, 2021 at 5:13 PM
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    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    Are they’re any siblings or new spouses? An usher can escort his mom or even the groom could but if there’s a sibling that can, then go that route. Dad can walk behind.

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  • Brianna
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Brianna ·
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    We’re going to have open seating, so no ushers. And we both have a brother, but his brother has autism and we don’t want to overwhelm him with too many responsibilities.
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    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    She can help his brother and they both can walk down aisle together.

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    Expert October 2021
    Megan ·
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    My fiancé's parents are also divorced, and he'll be walking down the aisle with both his mom and dad, then they'll find their (separate, on either side) seats in the front row next to their respective significant others. Maybe that could work for you? Step-parents really do not have to be involved in the processional at all--the only time I've seen that is when a step-parent has played a huge role in raising a bride or a groom.

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    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Tia ·
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    I have the dad and step mom escorting each other and they will be the first parents to enter followed by his mom then my mom who are both escorted by ushers.
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  • Kathryn
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    Kathryn ·
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    My situation is different - my parents are the ones divorced and remarried. My stepdad is walking my mom down the aisle, and my stepmom won't be walking. But that's a bit more obvious for me because my dad is walking me in. Stepparents don't have to be included, especially if things are messy. Why not have her sit at the front and his dad walk in with someone else?
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    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    Just have his dad and stepmom walk in together. I don't think this would draw any attention. They are a couple.

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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    Since when do parents walk down the aisle? The only one I've ever seen is the father of the bride walking with the bride. Do whatever feels right to you, but I've only ever seen bridesmaids, groomsmen, and the bride and her dad going down the aisle which is what we are doing.

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  • Katie
    Devoted March 2019
    Katie ·
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    I think the simple solution would be to have FH's Dad and Stepmom walk down together! My parents are divorced and both in different relationships and we went like this:
    - FH parents
    - My mom escorted by her SO
    - Dad's SO escorted by Best Man (Dad was walking me down the aisle so he came later!)
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