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Savvy September 2017

Divorced Grooms Parents - Walking down the aisle - remarried mom not dad

Sara, on August 8, 2017 at 10:14 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I've scoured posts and can't find an answer, so here's my question...

I have no grandparents left or dad to walk down the aisle - all are deceased or not attending. My uncle will be walking me down the aisle, and I figured my brother would walk my mom. The tricky part is my FH's family. He has two married grandparents, a remarried mom, and a single/divorced dad. What is the processional order?!?! Do the grandparents walk together, the dad alone (or not at all??), and the mom with the stepdad? Or does it make more sense to do the grandparents, neither step dad/ biological dad, and just the MOG with an usher?

I have no idea what etiquette dictates in this case... It's not a formal church ceremony, just outdoors. I feel like it'd be awkward to have his dad walk alone and he's not on the best terms with his stepdad, so would it be better just do have his mom escorted by an usher? Because we can't just do the mom and stepdad, and leave his biological dad out...

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Savvy September 2017
Sara · on August 8, 2017 at 10:19 PM
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Additionally, his mom asked not to be seated at the dads table at the reception, so we are trying to be considerate of uncomfortable situations. Which brings up a whole separate set of issues, but I'm working on dealing with those...
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Just Said Yes June 2018
Marie · on August 8, 2017 at 10:29 PM
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Hi, you have a tough decision. I don't envy you at all. Why don't you have just the grandparents walking. Everyone else find a seat. Dad can bring a guess if he wants. The parents and steps will be treated equally.
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MrsSki · on August 8, 2017 at 10:40 PM
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Traditionally, only moms are seated. This can be done by a spouse or an usher. At our wedding, DH walked his mom down the aisle and his step-dad (who we love and adore) was already seated in the pew. Perhaps that's an option - just have grandparents walk in then FH with his mom, no dads?

Or if you don't want to be traditional, what about a female escort for dad? Do you have a female family member you'd like to honor? Then you could list:
Grandma, escorted by Granddad
Mom, escorted by her husband Stepdad
Dad, escorted by cousin Jane
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Dedicated May 2018
Natalie · on August 8, 2017 at 10:44 PM
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Do you have a close friend you would like to include in your bridal party? Or a cousin? I would pair someone like that with your FH' s divorced/single dad and then do the married grandparents and mother and stepdad. Then, of course, your mom and brother and most importantly yourself and your uncle
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Savvy September 2017
Sara · on August 8, 2017 at 10:48 PM
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FH's sister could probably walk down the aisle with the dad... but her son will be the ring bearer, and I'd like her to be ready to jump in case the ring bearer gets camera shy, for lack of a better word... I'm not sure if she'd be able to do that if she was already seated with his dad.
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