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AQuixoticBride
VIP July 2018

Ditching the engagement ring after marriage?

AQuixoticBride, on August 10, 2018 at 4:59 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 66

I know it may seem impossible to part with it when you get it, but is anyone else not wearing your engagement ring after getting married?

The last time I wore my engagement ring was the morning of our wedding. I put it in the box right before I put my dress on and haven't taken it out since. A couple of people have asked me where it's gone to or if I'll resize it to wear on my right hand, but the truth is I never planned on wearing it after getting married. To my mind, the engagement ring the symbol of a promise, the band a symbol of a commitment. On a practical level, the ring snagged on things and constantly needed cleaning from wearing it most days. I am also not much of a jewelry person and my simple, handmade wedding ring (pictured below) is much more in keeping with my style.

If you see yourself wearing your engagement ring forever, why? What could make you decide not to wear it anymore? If you've already decided not to, what's your reasoning?

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Latest activity by MrsC, on September 18, 2023 at 9:31 PM
  • C
    Master July 2018
    Cuoghi ·
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    I like your thoughts, they are well put. People and society are obsessed with the material things of marriage and the wedding, mainly the ring. I purposely did not post pics of my engagement ring except on here when prompted by people's posts as I think it is really tacky to do so. You are engaged when someone asks you, the ring is just a sign so everyone else can see. It doesnt need to be shoved in people's facing for judging or comparison.

    I love my engagement ring and wear it everyday, but it could be a twist tie or a rubberband and I'd still love it and be married. Wear whatever ring you like!
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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    Honestly, I don't understand having an extremely expensive ring if you won't be wearing it after you get married. NotFroofy and I just decided not to have engagement rings at all. But if you choose to have one, why pay considerably more for an engagement ring you will wear for only a few months (and which signifies only a promise for the future) than for a wedding ring you'll wear for life (and that signifies your commitment)?

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  • N
    Devoted October 2018
    Nicole ·
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    I am planning to wear only my wedding band on my left hand after marriage. I might wear the engagement ring on my right hand occasionally.

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  • sherry
    Savvy April 2019
    sherry ·
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    I will continue to wear my engagement ring. It is part of a set with two bands that will be soldered together. We picked the rings out together and I love all three bands. Smiley smile
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    Devoted September 2020
    Brandy ·
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    Yes I will wear it forever. Not because I am a showy person but because it symbolizes the day he asked me to marry him. Every time I look at it, I picture him. At night. On the beach. At our favorite place. Hair blowing in the wind and me in awe that this moment was actually happening.

    I will say that my ring isn't huge and gaudy so it doesn't annoy me as much. I can see where some of these giant stones would get obnoxious 😂
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  • Sabrina
    Savvy September 2021
    Sabrina ·
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    Honestly i might wear both of them after i get married but i dont know cuz like u said mine gets snagged as well cuz i work in retail so the register and other stuff always catches it
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  • K
    Super September 2018
    Kate ·
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    I'll be wearing mine because the band fits into my engagement ring and would look soooooo weird if I only wore it lol
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  • B
    Super March 2019
    Bailey ·
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    I will continue wearing mine with my wedding band after we get married. He designed this ring for me to wear and I love it! I will be able to wear my band separate in situations where I may want to do so.
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  • Tpatb
    Master August 2019
    Tpatb ·
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    I will most likely kepp my ring bc I feel like we have been in the long haul imo. I honestly didn’t think we’d get married & so when I received my ring it was everything to me. Taking it off would be for the same reason I do now..harsh activities such as cleaning, going to the gym etc. idk..I just love my ring & I feel like when I get my band it’ll be even more complete!
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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I can't imagine not wanting to wear mine. FH picked out a beautiful ring, that I absolutely love, to symbolize his commitment and desire to spend the rest of his life with me.
    Plus, he would probably be hurt if I didn't want to wear it any more.
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  • Brae
    VIP September 2019
    Brae ·
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    I'll be wearing my ring even after getting married. My fh designed it himself and it means everything to me. It's a pear shape that sits flush on my finger, so I'll need a custom band so it fits. That we will pick together. My engagement ring will make me think of how how much he loves me as an individual and the band will remind me of us being united.
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  • Sarah Katreen
    Dedicated August 2018
    Sarah Katreen ·
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    We wanted to keep things simple so after she proposed, we went out the next day and picked out our rings together. We wore them throughout the engagement up to a week or two ago when we had them cleaned as we will be putting them on soon as our wedding rings.
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  • ap2al
    VIP October 2018
    ap2al ·
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    I plan on wearing mine because it is an heirloom from my FH, and I love the connection and the memories that come with it when I look at it Smiley smile
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  • EM
    Master April 2017
    EM ·
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    I wear mine every day! I only leave it at home if I am doing something dirty, or going to the gym or something, otherwise it lives on my finger!

    I chose not to have them soldered so that I had the choice to wear just my wedding band, and so far, I'm very happy with my choice, even though it's ever so slightly annoying when they separate or when my wedding band spins without my e-ring.

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    I feel the exact same way. My engagment ring is beautiful but it delicate, fragile, and iriplacable (passed down a few generations) my band on the other hand is beautiful but simple far less valuable so for me it an easy choice. I would only wear the two together on a special occasion
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  • AQuixoticBride
    VIP July 2018
    AQuixoticBride ·
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    My engagement ring wasn't extremely expensive for this reason, also because DH knows I'd rather an "engagement vacation" than a pricey ring if we're choosing, haha. The logic escapes me, though, because the expensive items I have are precisely the things I don't use every day. I love my ring, and even though it wasn't terribly expensive, it's too much for me for everyday wear.
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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
    firstoneat56 ·
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    It isn’t that deep for me. I love my engagement ring so I wear it everyday with my band. If you find your engagement ring I’d annoying, don’t wear it. Perhaps consider tuning it into earrings or s pendant that you might like to wear.
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    Just Said Yes February 2019
    La Reina ·
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    I agree, I plan to wear my engagement ring after the wedding.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I plan to wear mine together mostly, just because I love my engagement ring! I deliberately picked one out that I knew I would like wearing forever
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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2018
    Alyssa ·
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    I will most definitely wear mine after the wedding. Fh put so much thought and love into designing and buying it and its gorgeous. I have a silicone ring for when my ring could get damaged.
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