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Distant(ish) Family Invites

Kaylind, on September 30, 2019 at 4:52 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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I've never been super close to my dads side of the family. I keep in contact with some of my cousins and aunts on FB and instagram, but I haven't seen most of them in years. Should I invite them to the wedding?? I feel that its rude if I don't but I'm not close with any of them and my venue selection is more narrow if I factor in my distant(ish) family members.

Any opinions/suggestions!?

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Latest activity by Brandi, on October 16, 2019 at 9:12 AM

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Caytlyn · on September 30, 2019 at 4:54 PM
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If you want them there, invite them. If you don't, don't invite them. You're not obligated to have anyone there that you don't want.
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Melle · on September 30, 2019 at 5:02 PM
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Don't feel obligated. some people invite them and some don't. i didn't. we didn't feel the need to invite people that just weren't really in our lives.
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MrsD · on September 30, 2019 at 5:08 PM
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If you want, you certainly don't have to. We invited more distant family, but we had a larger guest list (225) so we weren't excluding people.
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Megan · on September 30, 2019 at 5:29 PM
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I invited my aunts and uncles but not their (grown) children. Only one of my cousins was invited because shes my bridesmaid and the only one I'm close to. Do what makes you happy.
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Alejandra · on September 30, 2019 at 5:33 PM
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I wouldn’t if you don’t truly want them there. They should also understand that you haven’t seen them in years so they shouldn’t be surprised if you don’t invite them.
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VIP September 2019
Mrs. Bubba · on October 1, 2019 at 2:58 AM
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No. Only invite those that you want to share the day with.
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Sinéad · on October 16, 2019 at 7:37 AM
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Hey Kaylind!
When it comes to your wedding guest list, you truly are the one who knows best. If you feel like your wedding day wouldn’t be the same without these family members, or if you would really like them to be there. That being said, if you are having an intimate wedding guest list, you may prefer to invite people who are a lot closer to you.
Have you made any headway with making this decision?
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Brandi · on October 16, 2019 at 9:12 AM
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My father was absent and his side of the family were highly inconsistent. I do have a relationship with two of my first cousins that are my "aunts" children. None of my dad's side told me "congratulations." They saw it on Facebook because they're always on facebook and instagram. I'm sure my brother also told them because he keeps them in the loop of my life. But, of course, no congratulations and therefore, no invitation. If you want a relationship and want to invite them - that's your choice so, do it. However, if you don't want to invite them, don't. It's not the end of the world and they shouldn't be surprised if they don't receive an invite.
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