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Just Said Yes October 2020

Distant sisters

Lizzie, on June 8, 2019 at 8:28 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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10 years ago , my eldest sister took her kids and moved across the country . Before she left , I had spent 8 years of my life (middle/high school) babysitting her kids , I’d spend weekends at her house and she was amazing ... after she left we had no communication until I had my daughter 6 years ago and even then it was just gifts once a year . But I’ve received NOTHING not even a hello in 3 years .
my other sister hasn’t been so distant , but so distant at the same time . She lives 20 minutes away and has never ever made an effort to be in mine or my daughters life ... I RAISED her kids for 3 years alone while graduating high school and dealing with family issues with my parents . She at least found out I was engaged and reached out...

im stuck between inviting them and hoping there is no backlash because neither one of them get along with other family coming .
idk what to do I need advice !

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Latest activity by Gloria, on June 10, 2019 at 10:39 AM

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ASMini914 · on June 8, 2019 at 8:33 PM
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I think thats a tough call, if it were me I would probably invite them because 1) they are your sisters, and 2) because this would be you reaching out to them and putting the ball in their court. It seems like you miss them, and having them in your life which I would too if I was in your situation.
Inviting them is your way of telling them you still want them in your life. Its up to them if they come or not, or even how they react.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 8, 2019 at 8:36 PM
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I would just invite them. There's always a chance for your relationship to get better
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Just Said Yes October 2020
Lizzie · on June 8, 2019 at 8:37 PM
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I do care , I am a huge family person . Especially because I spent from 12-18 babysitting their kids for free and we all had a good relationship till my eldest sister moved away , decided my mother and I were horrible people and now both sisters refuse to allow their kids to speak to me or my mom . They have brainwashed the kids to think we are the enemy and idk how having them all together will end up but I know I’ll beat myself up if I don’t invite them ... just hurts as my dream was to have them standing next to me and that’s nowhere close to a thought
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Cher Horowitz · on June 8, 2019 at 9:03 PM
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Since your sister did reach out to you about your engagement, I say go ahead and invite them! As for not getting along with the other family, I wouldn't worry too much about that. Your guests are adults who can be civil and polite!
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karen · on June 9, 2019 at 11:50 AM
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If she does not allow her kids to talk to you, I would not invite her.
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Gloria · on June 9, 2019 at 1:49 PM
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I definitely understand how you feel .sorry you’re going through this .I have a similar situation I live in Florida my sister lives in New Jersey iMessage her for all different type occasions she never responds I got married in March I called her and Texted so I could get her address she never responded . so she never got invited to my wedding we haven’t talked for about 5 to 6 years , we never had any problems with each other She just don’t want to talk so she was unable to attend my wedding...
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Just Said Yes October 2020
Lizzie · on June 10, 2019 at 10:06 AM
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I have one niece that speaks to me (my second sisters daughter) and when she told me my eldest sisters response when I got engaged I was heartbroken .... but I’m so hard on myself I’m. Trying to figure out if I invite them and hope everyone behaves or doesn’t make it awkward ... I just wish I knew what to do without getting hurt in the end
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Gloria · on June 10, 2019 at 10:39 AM
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I know it’s a hard decision to make because it’s family but I learn to worry about me more because all this has not affect them The way it has affected me and maybe you need to take in consideration how you’re feeling and stop worrying so much about them at the end of the day it’s your wedding and I know like I said it’s hard because its family, but somehow you have to MoveOn I wish you the best of luck on whatever decision you make .
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