Distant Cousin - Gift if RSVP No?

I don't think you are in any way required to.

But I absolutely would send something, even if it's just $25 or $50. Or a card. I love celebrating with people and you never know who may be super touched by your gift. I love being able to make someone's day a little better by sending a gift/card and letting them know my thoughts are with them even if we aren't close, and I am extremely moved by others doing that for me.

I just want to say I am the other side of this. My parents chipped in to invite all family. I don't know many people on our guest list(or don't know well). We did not send invites to be gift grabby and I really hope people don't think that. I would not expect gifts from anyone who doesn't come.

ETA I know most people on our guest list but there are still a bunch that I don't know. If that was confusing...

If you feel compelled to get something because she's an relative and your happy for her but you don't know her well, get something small off the registry. And send a nice card.

We didn't send a gift to the mystery person we got a STD and then invite from.

(I did some Googling and FB-stalking after the STD and found out, much to FH's surprise, that the mystery groom was his cousin's son, whom he'd never met.)

Didn't invite the mystery couple to our wedding either.

Not sad about either of these.

I'd say no. Out of 250 guests, only one couple didn't have the courtesy to RSVP - my uncle and his wife (the poster couple for a narcissistic sense of entitlement). They didn't even acknowledge my wedding with a congratulatory e-mail - Nothing!

I honestly wouldn't feel obligated to send a gift in this situation