When did you figure out your bridal party?

I knew who would be in my bridal party before I was even engaged. However, my engagement wasuch shorter than yours. I would suggest holding off until 8mo-1yr away. If you search bridesmaids in this forum you will see that sometimes being a part of a wedding drifts people apart. It’s best to wait than to regret

Most people will say wait a while, but I knew immediately who I wanted and have had no issues, getting married this September and asked them last June. My one BM had to back out because she lost her job and is a single mother (I completely understood). I have heard horror stories about people asking too soon, I would def wait if you can.

Usually people recommend waiting until it's about one year from your wedding to ask, at the earliest. You may not think that relationships will change, but sometimes they do.

There are countless posts on here about people regretting who they chose for their wedding party, and wanting to "fire" bridesmaids because something changed in their relationships.

I decided on mine a little bit earlier than one year out, and had asked my MOH pretty much right away, almost two years out. (Before I joined WW.) Luckily I didn't run into any problems with mine.

I got engaged in September and asked my bridal party in January. Our engagement is a shorter one, but like PPs have said, most people recommend waiting a while, just in case relationships change. One of my friends is getting married next May and to my knowledge, she has not asked her bridal party yet either.

Wait. I suggest like a year out. Maybe even 8-9 months.

I wish I'd waited. Yesterday I had the conversation with someone who was originally supposed to be a bridesmaid (she appointed herself -_- ) that she wasn't even invited to my wedding. Save yourself the potential awkward conversations.

I was like 6 months out when I asked and now wish I had waited longer! I would've not asked one of my girls and would've instead asked my male friend to stand up for me. No big drama, my friend has just been a bit distant lately.

Definitely wait until you're closer to a year away! Relationships can change a lot more than you think. Our engagement is a little over 3 years long, I waited until 14 months before the wedding to ask my bridesmaids and I'm glad I waited because in that time I built stronger friendships with some people and drifted from others. So I know if I asked right when I got engaged I would have regretted some of my choices and would have wanted to add others in.

Also, the girls you want to ask won't have any idea what their lives will be like in 2020, so it's kind of hard for them to truly commit when they don't know what they'll have going on in 2 years.

I figured out mine ages ago. My 5 best friends
Unexpectedly one decided to no longer talk to me for reasons I'm still not aware of 3 months later.
I figure no matter when u decide these things, stuff happens beyond your control

I got engaged Sept..asked my ladies in December & we aren’t getting married until Aug 2019..I was tol excited lol smh Tbh everything has been going well so far & all of my ladies are pretty dependable. However I am in a couple of other groups were there are so many horror stories & fall outs. Your date is a little ways out so maybe you should wait at least until the new year as things can change..every experience isn’t the same

I knew the second he put the ring on my finger! I asked my girls 2 years out. Had a falling out with one (turns out I didn't know her nearly as well as I thought even after 5 years...that's a story for another time lol) but I don't regret asking them so soon at all!

Wait until about one year out as friendships change.

I'd wait until 6-8 months prior to your wedding. I knew who I wanted to be in my wedding, but my engagement is shorter. If you do a search on the forum, you'll see all sorts of issues people have had with asking too early. If you just wait, it'll be less stress on your friends and you.

Hi Kaitlyn! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement!

I agree with the others, I think 6/8 months to a year out from your wedding date is a good time frame. You probably already have an idea of who will be your wedding party & I'm sure they will be so excited when you do ask!

Hope this helps!

My sister from the get go knew she was going to be MOH but I didn't ask my other bridesmaid until 6 months before. I would definitely wait until at least 8 months out

I texted the girls right after we got engaged, 18 months in advance. I formally "proposed" to them 14 months in advance. But I knew right away exactly who I wanted to ask! The girls really appreciated having time to save since they all have to travel to the wedding.

It is really up to you, you know the people you want to ask the best. I may be the odd one out but I got engaged in October 2016, asked my MOH in December 2016 and started asking my bridesmaids and the kids (usher, flower girl, and ring bearer) in January 2017 and I'm not getting married until Dec 2019. Most of my party are my sisters - I have 4 and my nephews and niece - and asking was just a formality. The other 2 are friends that I have been talking to so much more now, even though we dont live near each other and one has a crazy work schedule. My fiancee asked their brother and best friend for well over a decade right away and has added a couple people since. We figured if we get closer to someone we can always add one or two more - especially since we arent getting matching dresses or anything. And this is giving people plenty of time to save plan and look for a dress/suit that they really like. And for my 2 sisters that live overseas to save and request the time off to come for their every couple of years trip home for that same time.