Vent!! Coworker attempting to invite herself

Did you invite any other coworkers?

I think you've done all you can do at this point. Don't share any details with her and I would also ask your aunt and uncle not to communicate any details with her either.

Just laugh as if she's kidding and brush her off. People are insane. You've already done all you need to do.

I would follow Mrs. Coakley's advice 100%

You are right to be upset but just try to remain calm and let it slide off your back.

@Christy, that wasn't what I was going after. Some coworkers you are friends with. Others you are not. She may think it is ok to invite herself because there are coworkers going and use the excuse "well you invited so and so." I have seen it happen before.

I was asking because if you didn't there is an easy way out - it is just friends and close family, no coworkers, sorry.

If you did, then it becomes the well such and such and I have been close friends for some time, and that is why they are invited.

I had one like that at my job, I would just brush it off. also I agree with PP reach out to the aunt and uncle and tell them the situation because is she is getting a clear NO from you, she may try to convince your FH aunt and uncle to help her get on the list. I have seen it happen- and I invited 5 co workers, I didn't invite all and they knew it and I had no problems except that one person, but brush it off and just laugh...

Just keep saying no. You're doing things right. She's extremely rude.

I'm a teacher so you can bet I did not invite every coworker! And neither did FH. He works for a huge engineering company. We both picked the ones we have a out-of-work relationship with.

Oh hell no!

Ask her, COULD YOU NOT?! Sometimes you really need to be direct with people. Fuck being nice.

OMG! She's offering to help you cut other guests off your list so she can come?! The audacity of some people is incredible!!

Run!!!! She is rude and annoying..

Oh my goodness! Aggressive! Ha

Wowowowow!! Even if you guys had been friendly before, I would be shocked, then furious. I don't get the audacity of some people. I can't believe she even suggested that she'd bar-tend!! get her some water because she's super thirsty!!

My coworker did this too. I didn't say anything. I didn't know what to say! Some people!

Sorry guys. I was driving so I couldn't respond right away.

Yes there is one coworker I'm planning on inviting. We are very close outside of work. Funny thing is I try to avoid wedding talk at work. I don't bring it up and I keep it short when it does come up by everyone else.

@Rachel T I know! I was even more shocked when she asked me if she could bar-tend.

@Idaho I didn't know what to say at first either. I stopped what I was doing and just stared at her at first before I said anything.

goodness gracious

I'm nervous i will run into this issue in the next week. my job is hosting a work bridal shower and of course coworkers who aren't invited will be attending. i really hope it doesn't happen but it's bound to. i have already told a few they aren't invited and they have respected that but it's so awkward!

Oh my god! The nerve of some people!

I continue to see stories like this and it STILL shocks me every time. Until it started happening to me, I didn't realize that people were actually this rude. I also have had a co-worker do this to me. There have been a handful of people who have mentioned that "they are expecting an invite" .... do people have no wedding etiquette?! Sorry this is happening to you.... but good job on staying firm! I have a really hard time with that