Unreturned Rsvps - When to reach out?

Our rsvp date was Sept. 7, and we reached our about a week after. Gave us enough time to make sure last minute rsvps to arrive but enough time to reach out if they hadn’t.

I reached out about a week before my due date. I wanted to start my table arrangements and prepare headcount for my vendor. Most of the people said they just forgot to RSVP, and I got responded same day.

ABSOLUTELY wait until after— it comes across as super naggy to ask before. You gave a deadline, give them that time.
Additionally, wait a couple days after your deadline— that’s the date a lot of people will drop them in the mail, so you’ll want to give them a few days to arrive.

i was so glad I waited. I was out of town the weekend after the due date, so I figured I’d ge to follow ups sometime during the week afterwards. I had like 24 missing RSVPs on the due date, but responses POURED in over the next couple days and I ended up only needing to reach out to like 2 people

A lot of people won't put the RSVP into the mail until the date listed as the return by date. So you should give it a few days and then reach out. Our RSVP date was a friday so we waited one business week and then started to reach out

Do not contact people before your RSVP date. Wait about two/ three days after if you are using the mail to wait for them to come in. A lot of people put them in the mail on the RSVP date.

You’ll be surprised by how many you receive right before/on/right after your RSVP date. I wouldn’t reach out until a few days after, they still have time to send them in

I'd wait until after the date passes. Some people may not know if they can make it yet so they may be waiting until the last minute to send them.

You wait until after. This is why when you set your due date, you leave wiggle room to contact guests before your numbers are due to your cateree. My rsvp's were due September 14th, and we received the last of ours in the mail yesterday.

People still have time to RSVP so I wouldn't contact them before the due date. A lot of people wait until the last second. I would wait til a few days after the due date before I call them. My due date was on a Monday and I got the last few RSVPs back during that week. I didn't have to call anyone.

Ours was 9/14 (a Friday) and I waited until the following Monday. We did online RSVP though so I didn't have to worry about when they put a card in the mail, I could see it instantly. I also gave myself a 2 week buffer to I didn't need to reach out right away. btw STILL waiting on 13 people (from his side).

My deadline is the same day and as much as I'd like to reach out to people (because right now we are at 50%) I'm going to wait until the day after. I am not waiting a week because we only did online RSVPs so I will not be waiting on mail.

I'd wait until after the RSVP date, maybe start October 3?

I gave people a few days after the due date. We got RSVPs up until the date but actually none the day of or after. At least wait until your date hits.

I wouldn't say it comes off as naggy, but it doesn't hurt to at least reach out to a few. Many people that didn't know they were being invited just to double check they actually got the invite. We didn't have any problems with peoples invites but FH's brother and his fiancee have had tons and tons of problems with people not receiving there invite even if they only live an hour away. I think there RSVP date was like a week or so ago but they were still trying to send out invites. Or if you are closer with a cousin or family member that you see or talk to on a normal basis it doesn't hurt to ask them if they haven't sent it. But you know your people better than we do if they would think it is rude or not.

Edit to add: Also if you have a lot of younger family or friends or coworkers they might not know how to actually respond. I reached out to many, many people that thought because they didn't send it back that it meant a no.

Definitely wait until after, it would be super naggy to have someone call me before the due date they had given me. Ours were due September 2nd, I waited a week to reach out to people because we had a lot that came in on the 3rd and 4th. But the week after our rsvps were due we still had about 80 people we were waiting to respond, which was ridiculous and sooo frustrating. My final numbers are due tomorrow and I’m STILL waiting on about 3 people to answer me. So I’m glad I set the due date wayyy ahead of when my final numbers are due.

We will reach out to people starting a full week after our RSVP date. Giving us enough time to contact anyone we need to before final numbers are due to the wedding planner

My RSVP date deadline was last Saturday, 9/15, but I'm going to see who I have tomorrow and then start calling this coming week. I only have 25 out of 222 that we haven't gotten the responses for yet.