Two months, no caterer, no ring, no honeymoon

I was in a similar circumstance not to long ago everyone just said calm down and take a step back. I took a couple days to myself and then started trying to figure things out.

View Quoted Comment Thanks love. You are right. I just need to get it all worked out in my head, but first, the dishes!

It will all work out! Deep, calm breaths. We are also doing a DIY taco bar. There’s an amazing blog online from this girl who catered her sisters wedding and she broke down exactly what and how much she bought. It’s been a life saver to me in planning! If you’d like me to find it I can! That way, you can still stick with your original idea. We are also not going on a honeymoon right away, or getting our wedding bands. We just can’t afford it. At the end of the day, those things won’t matter in the slightest, because you’ll be married to your best friend. Try to focus on the excitement and fun parts, and don’t sweat the small stuff. You have the rest of your life for vacations and rings, you only have one wedding

DJ - is what it is don’t worry about it at this point

Food - fiancé needs to be figuring this out since he wanted these people invited. Why is the stress just on you and your parents? Cake and punch? Change to a non meal time! Would be cheaper to reprint invitations then to feed these folks a meal.

how many people are you inviting?

honeymoon- go on a nice anniversary trip

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much. I would like that link, if you have it. Our issue is the venue is a lodge 1.5 hours away from our house so we have to prepare food two days before, refrigerate, and heat up on the day of. We got worried about the logistics..

View Quoted Comment All out of town guests, so kinda became a weekend thing. People coming Friday, staying till sunday, my parents offered to help pay, but any overages are on us. If I leave it to fiance, it will not get done. Time has proven that one!
Honeymoon is not super important I agree. I suggested just being home together without the baby would be romantic to me!!

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! Here it is!

http://boundbyfood.com/the-wedding-taco-bar-150/

We are cooking all meat about about a week prior and freezing. We will reheat by putting them in crockpots that morning to thaw, and by the time reception starts they will be nice and warm. Other than that, you shouldn’t have to heat up anything else! (Unless you want warm tortillas, which then you’d have to bring a roaster of some kind). Veggies you can cut up a day or two in advance and they’ll survive a 1.5 hour car trip without refrigeration. The only thing to really keep cool will be meat, sour cream, and cheese. Get some coolers and you’ll be set!

View Quoted Comment I was so gungho about it all when I started this process, and now that it's down to the wire, I just panicked!! Probably didn't help trying to put the baby to sleep, fiance being gone for 2 days on fire, and grandparents and parents coming for a visit so deep cleaning the house! Bahaha

View Quoted Comment Good luck! Hang in there

I would sell the dirt bike and use the proceeds to hire a caterer but you are probably a lot nicer than me.
Why is HE not worried about feeding his relatives?

For the catering, what would you think about having a taco food truck? My coworkers daughter got married last year, she rented the taco food truck, they set up tables for the food. My coworker said that this was very successful, people loved it, and there was plenty of food, and the cost was reasonable. Something like this will allow you to have the tacos you originally planned for, and someone else does the work.

He taco site is awesome! I just checked it out I agree with the others though, relax for a few days then brainstorm and concentrate on solutions.. good luck. Recently when I got stressed, I just realized my mind just needed some down time, lol,

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I was thinking along those lines!

I wouldn't have bought the dirt bike in the first place, while trying to pay for a wedding. It's kinda selfish of him to repeatedly ask for it. However i'm the type, the more you ask for it, the less likely you are to get it. Also to expect you to handle all the wedding planning, isn't right. How did you outsource the cost to FH's family?

As for the DJ, it is what it is. Perhaps ask about the cancellation policy, but at this point, canceling it may cost more money.

Taco Truck is a good idea. Figuring out food is a priority right now. He needs to be involved. He wanted all these people, he needs to help figure it out.

I paid $70 for Fh's ring, got it on sale. It's nice, and he loves It. I asked him the looks he likes, and took it from there.

How many guests?

We still haven't decided on a honeymoon. We may just go away for a weekend, and then plan a big anniversary trip next year.

View Quoted Comment I agree 100% with this as well. Time for a serious talk about how you guys are going to handle finances now and in the future and share in responsibilities together. He us being very unfair to you and you are not making your needs known.

Just relax it will all come together !! If your FH can’t deicde on a ring just buy a cheap one to use for the ceremony and when he decides andyou can save more $ buy him his actual ring, no one will know the difference

I would say don’t plan a honeymoon right now. Get through the wedding first and then you both can pick something to do afterword. Maybe do a small weekend getaway and do a real honeymoon later on when the wedding stress is off your plate! For the ring, honestly you might just need to pick it for him and let him know time is up. For the food I think you should stick to your original idea! Getting a caterer now will add to stress. To me indecisiveness is the most stressful thing, you just have to make a decision and go with it. Everything will end up working out!

View Quoted Comment For the DJ, I am actually more worried that they will not show up on the day of and we will not have music then cancelling. Their contract is very minimal. They are starting up company.
As for outsourcing, we've gotten th mom to cover rehearsal and dessert.(since most guests are out of town she has extended the invitation to feed any one at the lodge, not just bridal party. His father is paying for photographer. My aunt offered to pay for DJ. My grandma is a retired florist, is going to do bouquets and flower arrangements.
My poor fiance does help. He does what I ask him to do but gets overwhelmed easily. He believes he did the legwork for the caterer(it is basically a taco truck!! Just smaller so it can go over the foot bridge to our reception location!) I am just worrying about the price being 3 times what we had budgeted for and after summer school tuition and the dirtbike[I told him it was his wedding gift, and it was his father's day gift too!] Maybe he'll realize the implications when i tell him the honeymoon is not happening due to not having money. He's just terrible at this stuff. I've known for years that, we've been together forever. I have access to his bank, he does not to mine. His paychecks come to my account. Otherwise, we would not make it financially. His pocket has a permanent burned hole. I accept that, and am lucky he has many other good qualities. Money, planning, and organization are not them. He's a damn good procrastinator though!

View Quoted Comment Get the taco truck. You will enjoy all of this a lot more if you get the truck.

my mom always says ‘time is money’ and you’re going to spend a lot of time cooking days before you’re wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree. I need to just go through the budget and make it work. It'll be more fun that way too. Thanks so much. I just emailed asking for lowest pricing (dropping a side) and when they need head count by. Luckily our friends own the business so they held the date without a deposit!

Two things: please find a way to make the taco truck work. Hubby and I went to a wedding where the groom cooked for everyone, he was a chef. We never saw him or the bridal party all evening. Prepping, cooking, hauling and cleaning up.....yikes.
Two: please get on the same page with finances. Your fiance justified a dirt bike with a baby and an upcoming wedding? If you all had the money, fine, but you don't/didn't and now everyone is scrambling.