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Master February 2014

to all you Naysayers, read, while I take the time to gloat.

mrsrobinvalentine, on January 29, 2014 at 11:41 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 12

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Don’t believe the naysayers. Feldhahn’s marriage research for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages revealed a core assumption that was central to highly happy marriages. Highly happy couples don’t just believe it’s possible to have a good marriage, they believe it’s probable. They assume their marriage will succeed and they pay no attention to the naysayers who would have them believe otherwise. And it turns out: they’re right. Most of us have heard that half of all marriages end in divorce, but it’s simply not true. According to 2009 U.S. Census Bureau data, 72 percent of people are still married to their first spouse – and the 28 percent who aren’t include millions of people who were married for decades, until a spouse died! So, don’t be cynical about marriage; be cynical of what the cynics say about marriage!

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Latest activity by Nel, on January 29, 2014 at 5:05 PM

Master October 2014
SupermanBride · on January 29, 2014 at 11:43 AM
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Ok......?
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Master February 2014
mrsrobinvalentine · on January 29, 2014 at 11:46 AM
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SupermanBride, it's just for fun. I'm sure you heard a lot of people say that 50% of the marriages ends in divorce. Over recent years that percentage has change.
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Master October 2014
SupermanBride · on January 29, 2014 at 11:47 AM
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Oh I wasn't sure if you were calling someone out or not.

Ehh, I say screw them. If people are really that cynical about marriage and divorce then they obviously aren't that happy in their own lives.
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Master November 2014
Theresa Beale · on January 29, 2014 at 11:48 AM
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The problem with the data on divorce is that not every state posts divorce rates (for instance, CA doesn't publish their divorce rates) so we can not really know the true divorce rate. Don't get me wrong, I do think a successful marriage is possible/probable but the couple needs to do the work and make the effort to have a happy marriage. It's not something that just happens.
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Super November 2014
Brianna · on January 29, 2014 at 11:50 AM
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Love it!
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Master September 2014
Miss P. · on January 29, 2014 at 11:52 AM
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I am in agreement that we should brush off the naysayers ,but I am confused with the statistics. It says 72% are still married to the first spouse and 28% the spouse has passed, that leaves 0% to divorced people. That can't be right. There are definitely divorces happening. Am I misreading/misunderstanding something? I don't mean that negatively, I am genuinely confused. o_O
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Master March 2014
Private User · on January 29, 2014 at 11:52 AM
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Personally I tend to think the rate is higher due to some people having multiple divorces. If someone has 2-4 divorces in their lifetime wouldn't that drive up the percentage?
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Master October 2013
AndreaLily · on January 29, 2014 at 11:52 AM
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Love it! Thanks for sharing!
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Master September 2014
Miss P. · on January 29, 2014 at 11:54 AM
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Ohhhh never mind! =P You mean OF the 28% it includes both divorced people and passing spouses. They should include the difference in percent between the two. I was like what does that mean??!
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Master April 2014
Rebekah · on January 29, 2014 at 11:54 AM
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Master May 2014
Angela Marie · on January 29, 2014 at 12:02 PM
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Love it. Good post.
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VIP May 2014
Nel · on January 29, 2014 at 5:05 PM
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Well I read a while ago that the way they calculated the 50% divorce statistics is a bit off because they looked at the number of marriages and divorces in one year, but didn't follow actual marriages to see which ended in divorce.
So if the marriage rates are going down, then it makes no sense to look at the number of divorces in that same year because those divorces are from earlier marriages when the marriage rates were higher.
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