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Thank You's - Before vs After the wedding

Rose, on October 18, 2018 at 1:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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Hi everyone!

Just a quick question -

We are getting married in May 2019 but with our website and registries being live, we already have some folks who are sending gifts. Do we wait until after the wedding to send Thank You notes or can we send them now? Not sure what the etiquette on this one is!

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Latest activity by Sarah , on October 18, 2018 at 5:31 PM

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Maggie · on October 18, 2018 at 1:29 PM
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Hi Rose!!! Welcome to WeddingWire!!!
Write the thank yous as soon as you get any gifts. If they're sending them to you now, I would assume they're meant to be engagement gifts or maybe shower presents. Either way, you don't want to either forget to write a thank you note after the wedding or be so overwhelmed with notes to write. So, just to be safe, do them sooner rather than later. It's better for everyone.
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Rose · on October 18, 2018 at 1:32 PM
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Thank you!
That was my first instinct (we're a thank-you writing family anyways) but wasn't sure!
Time to get scribbling!
Thanks again
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Maggie · on October 18, 2018 at 1:41 PM
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Not a problem!!! Glad to help!!!
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SB · on October 18, 2018 at 1:43 PM
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We had a couples shower several weeks ago and I started writing my thank you cards the next evening. Always better to do it sooner than later in my opinion!
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Bailey · on October 18, 2018 at 2:00 PM
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Start now! It will help you from being so stressed out later.

My shower is November 3, but I’ve already started writing my thank you notes.
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Samantha · on October 18, 2018 at 2:05 PM
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If you're anything like me, as soon as it gets put on the back burner I forget about it! So I sent my thank you's as soon as a present came in the mail. After an event like the shower or the wedding, it's definitely overwhelming to do more than five notes at a time. Case and point: My shower was in September and I have only done half of those thank yous....
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Sarah · on October 18, 2018 at 5:31 PM
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I was taught you have like a two week time frame to send a thank you note, but that could be just my mother and grandmother's rule. Either way, I wouldn't wait because people might think it didn't get to you. You could also lose track and forget, which wouldn't be great either. Easier to send out a little at a time than all at once after the wedding!
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