Tell me I'm not the worst

Definitely not the worst I wouldn't stress about it

You're totally not the worst. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress about it. Focus on the fact that you're actually getting RSVPs back. From what I've heard on here, that--in itself--is a huge deal!!!

Don't worry about it. You're fine. I'm sure I did the same.

Haha I know it's fine, I really do. I just feel like people are subtly correcting me (which they are), and I feel like a jerk!

You're not the worst. We misspelled the names of a couple (both of them). MIL misspelled them when she gave us their address and I didn't think of stalking them up on Facebook. Piece of advice for new brides: Stalk people on Facebook to find out the right way to spell their name

I got an invite to an engagement party (but never the wedding, grrr) and the bride had checked my fiance's last name on facebook to put on the invite. Well, my fiance has a fake name on facebook so she addressed it to his ridiculous made up name instead. There's no way to always win - you did your best!

JP & AP, take heart. If you were having a $1,000 a plate wedding reception with boxed, jeweled invitations featuring hand calligraphy, you might get a snooty guest who didn't like being formally addressed as Bill instead of William. Maybe, lol.

Just think back about all the etiquette blunders you've read about on WW (not enough chairs, bring your own chair, pay for your meal, liquor for the head table only, guests pay for any soft drink -- including water, VIPs having access to an air-conditioned venue while the non-VIP guests sweat it out on the patio, surf 'n turf for the head table/spaghetti for the guests, having honor attendants serve food/bus tables instead of hiring servers, honor attendants shaking down guests at the table for a few extra dollar donations for the couple, not allowing a guest to bring a S/O because the couple never met them and they don't want strangers at their wedding, GoFundMe accounts for luxurious weddings, writing "cash only" on the wedding invitation, inviting people to a wedding shower who aren't invited to the wedding, pressuring guests to hang around and help clean up the reception site, etc.), and you'll realize your mistake isn't a blip on the radar.

You're good. Don't worry about it. There is a huge difference between a small mistake on an invitation and a slap in the face of etiquette.

Nah, you're not the worst by any means.

If it makes you feel any better, I double checked my RSVP list 10,000 times, and the day of the wedding (like literally hours before as we are setting the place card holders at the welcome table), I realize I am somehow missing two peoples name cards!! Like WTF! How does this even happen? I can't just not have their place cards...my MOH had to drive back to the house and print them.

You're fine! FH's cousin didn't even include my name on the invitation after we had been together two years. We couldn't find my name at the reception because it was under my middle name instead of my last since my full name wasn't on Facebook.

Oh, honey...that's nothing. FH spelled literally 50% of his guests' names wrong. HALF, I kid you not. Obviously, since he's an intelligent person and an avid reader, I figured he was giving me a list of correct names, and never even thought to double check them! After getting some early RSVPs back after sending out the STDs, I was SO mortified to see that he had gotten so many names wrong! Even first names. Even the first AND last name. Of good friends. It just baffles the mind...

I thought I corrected all of them for my painstaking calligraphy on the invites...but no. We missed one. An old family friend of FH's parents, who is basically like an uncle to him. And I found out that we got the family name wrong when we received a wedding gift from him -- one of the priciest items on our registry. I snapped and reeeaaally let FH have it lol

@Rebecca- that is hilarious!! Princess Consuela - don't worry about a thing. I am a snooty etiquette elitist but I wouldn't give a second thought if my name was misspelled or written casually. People are reasonable. If they aren't then they are being a turd.

We couldn't figure out how to spell the last name of a few of my husband's family members, and it was wrong everywhere - from RSVP to the seating chart. We tried to ask and kept getting different answers. (They're distant or we would have just called.) Plus, we ended up having to put them at a table with a limited view at the wedding (long story). I'm sure they think we hate them. lol Anyway, they still came and it wasn't the end of the world.

Oh I can up you one.

My uncle has a girlfriend who goes by a nickname. Her real name is really unique and none of my family can ever remember how to spell it or even what it is. I had my dad text my uncle and ask him the spelling for the invitation, AND THEN I STILL SPELLED IT WRONG! And a few weeks ago when I was writing their thank you note, I just called her by her nickname because Fuck it, I can't spell. lol.

My now former friend complained, when my sister addressed my bridal shower invitation to her as Mrs. Jane Smith. She informed me she was Mrs. John Smith, Jr., and nothing else. She didn't even bother to RSVP and told me afterward that she had no intention of attending, since she didn't like two of our co-workers, who she knew would be there. I guess you can see why she's a former friend? ARGH!

P.S. Their wedding invitation was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, Jr. and they didn't even RSVP to that. Some people!

Yeah, I'd say it was an honest mistake. Far worse things could've happened. I'd say just make the changes for the name cards (in case you're having them) for seating!

They'll blame your head and not your heart.

As someone who's name is regularly spelled wrong, I'm telling you don't even worry about it.

They are probably used to it by now

My own grandmother spelled my name wrong in a letter one time (for my birthday), so a bride mis-spelling a couple after she's gone through tons of names? Totally fine! haha

Thank you guys! Haha I'm sorry that you guys have all screwed up too, but misery loves company

It'll be fine. People tend to notice their names more, but I did screw two things up on my invitations. For one, I was thinking about french that day, and wrote Septembre on several, and for another, we were in a multi-building complex, and as such there was more than one 'correct' address for directions. We ended up with one address on invites and a different one on info cards. (edit- and I forgot to say the whole point of this- only one person noticed Septembre and a different one noticed the location discrepancy)

And my MIL wrote my name wrong on the envelope she gave us a card in. She was really embarrassed, because she does know my name and the way she wrote it, with a letter transposed, wouldn't read aloud as my name anyway.

(also, I'm curious what you went for with formality. on mine, I went with whatever we (/everyone) call(s) the person most often)

Hey....my cousin Gabriela was addressed as Gabriel.....oops.

@Mrs.A2B my daughter is Gabrielle and gets called Gabriella or Gabriel.

My name is not easy to spell, Deirdre. Most people omit the first R. Even my own family does that. No worries. At least you made the effort.