Slow Rsvps?

It might be about 30% the mail is slow, and 70% that people procrastinate. My RSVP date was two weeks ago, and there were THREE that arrived today.... and my wedding is two weeks from tomorrow.

People just suck at those kind of things. You’re probably going to have to reach out to some people.

Girl yes - but don’t let it worry you! I had to open a trouble ticket with USPS in the end, and there was nothing they could do. RSVPs that were sent took 4 WEEKS to get to me FROM THE SAME CITY! Just be patient and if all else fails, give people a quick call or text and say you’re having issues with the mail and need to know their answer lol

Your wedding isn't until January 2019; why would they RSVP so early?

Today is the reply by date for my daughter's wedding and there are still 40 outstanding rsvps. It makes me so mad! How hard is it to write your name and check yes or no and put it in an already addressed and stamped envelope? Heck, if it's too hard to write your name leave it off...I got that covered with invisible ink. Ugh, so frustrating!

View Quoted Comment It’s actually not that early. It’s 2 months away. And depending when she has to give her final numbers and the. We’ve got 3 major holidays before then.
Mine is January 19 and I sent invites out almost 2 weeks ago but I’ve gotten 5 back. They were all family and obvious yeses.
OP give it time. The last wedding i rsvp’d for I literally waiting until the last minute not on purpose, it just happened. Maybe as you see people for the holiday next week just remind them to drop it In the mail.

Yeah... my mom said I definitely need to put reminders out after Thanksgiving. Respond by date is December 8th, but I just thought there would be more than 1 reply (which was my grandpa by the way lol). I'm so stressed that no one is coming! I've even had nightmares!

Daughter's wedding is around the same time as yours, and invitations are only going in the mail this week (about 8.5 weeks before the wedding). Unless your venue has an incredibly early requirement for your final numbers, I agree you sent them pretty early. Lots of people just can't know their work or other commitment schedules two months in advance. Just because a bride wants to "get ahead of the game/be organized/avoid holidays/whatever," doesn't mean guests will comply, either because they don't yet know if they can attend or because it seems so far away that they aren't very motivated. Sending too early can actually backfire and result in a lower response rate, because people set the invitation aside thinking they have "plenty of time" and then forget about it. Also, you still have three weeks until your response date, so I wouldn't start reminding people/following up with them (maybe okay in casual conversations, if you see people over Thanksgiving, "we're so excited the invitations are out and can't want to receive responses!"). If you push people to give you a response before they really know, you are more likely to end up with last-minute changes and/or no-shows. Try to be patient! (I know, easier said than done.... )

View Quoted Comment Yeah... what you are saying was my worst nightmare when I went on here and asked all the future brides when I should send out the invitations. I was actually not going to send anything out until next week....but everyone one here told me that I should have had them a week before I actually sent them. I found myself driving to the post office at 6am on a Saturday. I will try to reign it in lol... I only invited about 80 people total so reaching out shouldn't take too long. Caterer needs final number by December 15th.

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LOL! God love you going to the Post Office at 6 am.... Were they even open??? I do understand the excitement. There are many posts on these forums about sending invites and setting RSVP date really early (and doing lots of other things super early), with the rationale that the bride/groom "is just super-organized and wants to avoid stressing at the last minute" which is all well and good, but it's virtually impossible to make others comply to our own sense of urgency. It just leads to a lot of frustration. One of the worst is people who order a custom seating chart weeks in advance and then get upset that they receive last minute changes that require re-doing it. Yeah, that's just highly likely to happen.... No matter how "organized" the host is, there will be last minute changes. We can save ourselves lots of potential frustration by recognizing that some things, like escort cards, seating charts, etc., shouldn't be finalized until the last couple days. Good luck! Your responses will come in, and those that don't, you'll follow up with, it's just part of the process. Keep your great attitude!

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2 months out is when you're supposed to send invitations, not expect RSVPs back. Anything over a month before the wedding is too soon to expect RSVPs. It's nice to hear from people early, but it shouldn't be expected and you shouldn't be upset if you don't.

View Quoted Comment Rofl... oh yes I sure did. I stayed up late the Friday before Halloween and was on here asking people when they thought the right time to send invitations was. I received a bunch of responses, some with dates pretty close to mine that told me I was in urgent need of getting them in the mail ASAP. One lady said I was 1 week behind the ball. I will tell you I spent the entire night tossing and turning and finally I just got out of bed at 6am and drove to the post office and put them straight in the mail. Hindsight- it was overdramatic lol... But thank you guys for clearing that up! I will try to calm down about it... well... At least until the RSVP deadline anyway!

View Quoted Comment I sent them ahead of the holidays for planning purposes and also because so many people are out of town guests. And I'm supposed to have the final number to the caterer by December 15th so she can order the food. And it is only 7 weeks (to the day!) from the wedding. But I totally get your point. I will stop freaking out until the deadline at least.

View Quoted Comment Sorry we were trying to a jump on it because of the holidays.
I personally don’t believe either of us were too early 😊
have a great day!

View Quoted Comment Cassidy! Has anyone RSVP'D for you?

View Quoted Comment Yes I’ve gotten a few they’ve been trickling in one at a time since Wednesday. All family that we knew were coming so the rsvp were just formalities. But, it was still exciting to get them
in the mail!