Sister Ex Hubby as one of my groomsmen??

I personally wouldnt drop him i would just make sure they didnt have to walk together. Its your day

I don't think you really have a choice since she is giving you an ultimatum. You almost kind of have to drop one of them but I would talk to her and explain that it's time for her to put her big girl panties on.. That her friends aren't necissarly your friends and visa versa. That this is important to you and you supported her when it was her turn now it's time to support you. You aren't asking her to marry him again or even talk to him. You just asking that they both act like grown ups that care about the same person.

I hate to say this, but family comes first. It was pretty crappy of FH to ask him without talking to you and letting you all work it out first.

Admittedly, it's pretty immature of your sis to not allow him to come at all, but I don't think he should in the wedding party regardless. How do you think that makes her current husband feel?

You need to talk to to her about him just being present. He is still close to you and your FH- and it's YOUR day. Regardless of her personal feelings, she needs to grow up and suck it up. But he shouldn't be in the bridal party for sure! That's a slap in the face to her and her husband.

Ok so she IS my sister so he is out!!

The reason why i said dont drop him is because you stated you & your sis barely talk so i am assuming you 2 arent that close/ If she has this demand & you fold whos to say she wont be like if you invite him i am not coming. Then you have to give in again. @meghan family does come first & thats why her sis need to recognize its not her wedding & she needs to support her sis. He wasnt picked just out of the blue his is still a friend of the family

As long as you are happy thats the decision you need to make

Hmmm...I know this is your decision but I would keep him in especially if he is good friends to you and FH. I'm sorry but I don't respond well to ultimatums. I agree with Michelle M. who's to say that she won't tell you if he comes then she won't? If she loves you she will bite the bullet. Besides SHE'S the one who left him...so I don't understand what her problem is in the first place.

I am with u nika not good with the ultimatums its almost guaranteed imma do the opposite...lol