Should i invite her to the bridal shower??

I think it's up to you, I'm putting my FH's sisters and SIL on my guest list, but I'm really close to one of them and don't want to cause drama by not inviting all of them. Are you having a smaller intimate shower?

Is she invited to the wedding? If she’s your FBILs wife then she absolutely should be and if if she’s invited to the wedding she should also be invited to the bridal shower.

You should probably send an invite.

View Quoted Comment Yes she's invited to the wedding. Thanks for your advice!

View Quoted Comment Ok thanks!

View Quoted Comment I'm not inviting every women invite to the wedding just family and the BMs

I would!!!!!

Just invite her. To be honest I think it’s a little odd you weren’t invited to hers. A weird thing to exclude ‘family’ from even though you two weren’t married yet but maybe?? Engaged. Regardless, just invite her.

I had a similar issue! I wasn’t invited to my FHs counsins wedding. He was a groomsmen. And it wasn’t like “they just don’t have plus ones going”- she let everyone else bring a plus one except my FH. He was soooooo mad when he got there that after his “duties” were done he left, which ended up being like 9pm. I’m inviting her to the wedding. Not because she deserves to be there but because I refuse to be as petty as she was. My FH didn’t agree with that for a long time and didn’t want her there because he was still mad but now he gets it. We’re all adults, we don’t need to feed negativity. Also now that they are married it’s only fair to your BIL. He, like my FH at his counsins wedding, deserves to have someone to dance the night away and celebrate with. Technically, she is your FHs family.
However, I’ll also a huge proponent of it’s your wedding so do what you want. But if you are truly seeking advice I figured you’d benefit from hearing the outcome of a similar situation.

This really just comes down to the relationship you have with her, location, and size of your shower. If you're not that close there's no need to invite her. This goes double for if she lives out of town or if you're having a more intimate shower. That being said, if she's local to your shower location and/or other women from your FH's side will be in attendance then you should invite her.