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Rsvps!- getting yes’ that i was “positive” would be no’s

Michelle, on June 11, 2018 at 9:05 AM Posted in Planning 0 13

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Hey all! I’m excited to share today that we sent our our invites last week and already started getting rsvps back! I’m super excited!! Anyways, we have, to my surprise, gotten some yes’ for people I was positive would say no! I’m so exciteddddd to have these people there! I feel really special that they want to be there especially bc i really thought they wouldn’t travel the distance to be.

I just wanted to take a minute to let people know, it does happen so be prepared. I know in the past there has always been people who want to know “how many people they can invite since some will say no”, and this is a great example of “you don’t know that they’ll say no so stick to your numbers by your budget not your heart”.

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Latest activity by Allie, on June 11, 2018 at 12:50 PM

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Pegs · on June 11, 2018 at 9:10 AM
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Absolutely agree. There haven't been a lot of those in my case, but a few that made me say, "Ok, didn't expect them to come but no biggie!"
But we also had people say 100% they're coming, and then send us a RSVP saying they couldn't.
You just never know!
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Soon2Bmrsp · on June 11, 2018 at 9:11 AM
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That's great. I've got some on my list that I think willl say no too but I'm still going to invite them and hope for the best
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firstoneat56 · on June 11, 2018 at 9:12 AM
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Great point! A couple should never invite more people than they can afford and you should never count on anyone saying no until they do.
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Slightly Off-Center · on June 11, 2018 at 9:20 AM
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The way we approached our list was definitely from the POV of "If they say yes, SPLENDID! We will be so happy to have them there! But they will most likely say no." We are not inviting anyone "with the hopes" that they will decline. Those people just are not getting an invitation at all.
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MrsV1027 · on June 11, 2018 at 9:24 AM
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We were surprised with how many people were on board with going to Vegas for our wedding. Originally we thought we'd have like 12 people there and went with the smallest package. Next thing we knew we had at least 30 that for sure are coming so we upped the reception to the biggest package. Thankfully it's still in our budget. We were just pleasantly surprised.
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Mrs. H · on June 11, 2018 at 9:28 AM
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I totally agree! My mom is wanting to send invites to people she claims won't attend, but I honestly don't see the point. Not only is it a waste of money, but it's rude to invite someone and presume they won't show up, and then when they do you're completely caught off guard/unprepared!
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Sarah · on June 11, 2018 at 10:15 AM
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Completely agree here! Never, ever invite more than your venue can actually hold or than you can actually afford. We even have some guests from NORWAY who said they'll be here for the wedding! Super excited, but also definitely a surprise to get that RSVP back!
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Nikki · on June 11, 2018 at 10:28 AM
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I have several people I'm fairly certain will say no, but that doesn't mean they won't surprise me an come. I'm tracking how many we invite so that I know when we have to stop inviting people, and If some of my "probably going to say no's" say no, we can invite others depending on space.
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T P · on June 11, 2018 at 10:40 AM
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Congratulations! It is exciting that so many of your guests will have the ability to celebrate with you! Thank you, also, for reminding us that the unexpected can occur at every juncture of the planning process. This is great advice!
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Dedicated October 2018
Kayla · on June 11, 2018 at 10:46 AM
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I haven't gone over what my venue can hold or what we can afford, but I have invited a few people that I'm really hoping will say no, just because my dad wanted me to. They are extended family that we literally never see, I don't think I could pick them out of a lineup. But he is paying for everything and insisted that it would be rude to not invite them, but that they definitely won't come. Ugh, so stressful. My FH and I are major introverts and really don't want essentially strangers at our wedding!
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Kristina · on June 11, 2018 at 11:41 AM
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I 100% agree with this post!
My mom kept saying "Well, these people will say no...." And I had to keep telling her that they may surprise us and say yes!
We haven't sent out invites quite yet (In the next week or so) so I don't know how many will RSVP yes/no, but I know we will get some surprises!
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Casey · on June 11, 2018 at 12:48 PM
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This is so true! We have a few couples that we're sure will be "no's," BUT you never know! They're rich and so even though they live across the country they could decide to make a family reunion out of it and fly over to attend!
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Allie · on June 11, 2018 at 12:50 PM
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Love that feeling! Congrats girl!!
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