Questions about engagement parties?

You don't throw your own. It's tacky.

And if you're hosting any party, you never make people pay for their own food. So rude.

Someone throws it in your honor. Yes you buy everyone's food and if you do it at home, how many people are you feeding?

Well I don't know anything about weddings/engagement stuff so I'm just trying to get an idea. Basically we would be throwing each other one but we were considering doing them together, Since neither of us really like people in general and don't have much of a friend group. It's basically just a get together with friends and family to celebrate the engagement. It would be like a total of 20 or less with both of us combined

I still think it's weird if you "co-host" your own engagement parties. I've also never been invited to an engagement party, I don't think they are really a common thing anymore.

If you are co-hosting you are still essentially throwing your own.

I don't think they're as popular as they used to be. I haven't heard of anyone recently having one thrown for them. My best friend (as far as I know) isn't having one and I don't particularly want one, so it's fine to not have one. But I agree with PP's, someone else would need to want to throw you one.

LOL @ "since neither of us really like people in general".

You don't need an engagement party, OP. Just skip it. You, your BFF and your FH's all go out for dinner and drinks to celebrate each other. Boom. Done.

I don't see the point of an engagement party but if you have one it tends to be thrown by someone else.

As far as I know we are not having one. (unless someone is planning a surprise one, I doubt it!) My FH proposed to me during our house warming party, (everyone knew it was going to happen but me! lol) so all of our family and all of our friends were there to see it, so I don't think there is really a need for us to have one. Also I didn't really think it was a thing. I have never been invited to one.

I think it is fine to host your own engagement party/ celebration. UO though. But yes, the host should cover all the food and drinks. In my area, this is usually done as a low-key get together (bonfire style/ cookout style) and we all have a good time. It would be a little strange to have them at the same time, but if it is all the same friend group, then just have a regular party to celebrate each other's engagements, and don't call it an engagement party

We hosted our own party. It was last night and super fun! We had food and beer. We said no gifts on our invite so it wasn't a "gift grabby" occasion. Just a little party. We have lots of friends and several wanted to celebrate our engagement with us, so it was a way to do it all at once.

@Rachel and @Allison that's basically what we're wanting to do, I don't think it matters what you call it "Engagement party" is just a title but also I didn't think you did gifts at an engagement celebration anyways, isn't that supposed to be for like the bridal shower or whatever? We're not expecting to do gifts or anything, we just wanna get our close friends (the few people we like) and our closest family together with us to celebrate getting engaged and we were just thinking a dinner/drinks out somewhere or a bonfire/cookout thing..

She's extremely OCD about things and planned her own baby shower because she likes things certain ways..I wasn't intending on having any kind of engagement party/celebration but she suggested it and asked if maybe we should do something together since neither of us have a large friends crowd..

How old are you???

And eww to planning her own shower. Please dont plan your own shower.

What does my age have to do with anything?

Yes we're having one and FH and I are throwing our on.. I'm super stoked and ready to party........

@Stellara just send an evite and call it an engagement celebration get together. Offer some apps and drinks or meet at a restaurant/bar and specify no gifts. Should be all you need to do!

Engagement parties are very common in my social circle. However, I never heard of people throwing their own engagement party until I came to WW. Would never even cross my mind to throw a party in my own honor. Beyond weird and kinda ick.

Engagement parties used to be the official announcing of one's engagement, usually hosted by the parents of the bride.

Have a get together and enjoy some time with friends. You don't need to label it an engagement party.

PS - your friend was wrong to host her own baby shower, that's not something anyone should ever do for themselves

I would not even consider hosting it yourselves.

Yes, you buy people's food - it is not a potluck. It is appropriate to have a BBQ; I think they are called "I do BBQ".

If you feel compelled to throw her one, throw her one. If she feels compelled to throw you one, then she should. Don't have them together. If you do that, you might as well have co-host your wedding.

"oooh look, I had a baby, bring me gifts." LOL Who does that?