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Hollyberry
VIP October 2016

NWR: How to support a friend from afar

Hollyberry, on August 23, 2016 at 12:40 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 10

I was just wondering if anyone has ideas about what to send in a care package to a friend who just went through a major surgery. My friend had a transplant, can't have visitors and all yet, is far away from family and friends. I am wondering if anyone has any good ideas of what to send. I text her every so often, but don't think she is up to long conversations at this point, so wanted to send her a quick little note and package.

My ideas so far: a blanket I crocheted, a water bottle with "There's a chance this contains vodka" on it to make her laugh,nail polish. None of these things will help her pass a lot of time she will have alone, though. What would you enjoy getting if you may be in pain or stuck in an apartment away from family/friends? I was thinking an amazon gift card and putting a note saying to pick a book or movie you want, but is that thoughtful? What would you want?? Not sure what she can eat at this point, so I am thinking snacks are out. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Laura, on August 23, 2016 at 4:02 PM
  • The New Mrs.McGary
    Devoted October 2016
    The New Mrs.McGary ·
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    The gift card sounds like a wonderful idea...when I had surgery I didn't have an appetite for anything...so keeping her entertain is a wonderful idea

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I love the amazon gift card idea! I think this is perfect. Maybe add some body lotion or hand cream and lip balm?

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  • marryingmyknight
    Super April 2017
    marryingmyknight ·
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    Maybe you could get her the curse coloring book (look it up - it's hilarious!) and some colored pencils, a few fun magazines (think Cosmo or food network.. Something she's interested in that's also a little more interactive!), and maybe sudoku/crosswords/your favorite book to share with her... If you go the gift card route as well I would say to make it a note more like "spoil yourself with something you want/need". Less specific! I would stay away from foods etc. in general because you don't know what she is allowed to eat or in the mood to eat during recovery.

    As long as it's from the heart though I am sure she will appreciate it!

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  • Junebug
    Expert June 2017
    Junebug ·
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    If you text, that might be good enough. She is probably really, really tired and sleeping most of the time. Most transplant patients don't remember most of recovery - so texts and cards are good and movie credits or gift cards are good but maybe not things you make because of immune system.

    ETA: edited bcuz words r hard

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  • EMF
    Devoted March 2017
    EMF ·
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    These are great ideas! I would second the lip balm and hand lotion - my dad just came out of the hospital and those were huge for him. Cheers to your thoughtfulness!

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  • Hollyberry
    VIP October 2016
    Hollyberry ·
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    @Junebug good point about the handmade things... I know that is definitely a concern of theirs (and has always been for her).

    @Chani the curse coloring book is probably something she would definitely appreciate... I will look into that! Thanks for the suggestions everyone!

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  • Karen P
    Super May 2017
    Karen P ·
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    After my friend had an emergency C section we made a gift basket with coloring books, a light fluffy rom-com movie, some kind of silly quick read book (like YA romance or something) though she said she had trouble focusing to read. We brought her favorite potato chip and pepperidge farm cookie too, so maybe in a few more days or so when your friend's diet gets more relaxed you can do the snack thing.

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  • O&L
    VIP September 2016
    O&L ·
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    When my one friend was recovering from surgery, we all downloaded and played "word with friends" to keep her entertained. It was great way to keep in touch too. That was a few years ago so I don't know what online game are popular now.

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    1Sooner.fan ·
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    Does she already have Netflix or Hulu? A subscription to one of those would be great.

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  • Laura
    Devoted October 2016
    Laura ·
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    Magazines. I never buy them for myself anymore but they can be guilty little pleasures that definitely pass the time.

    I hope she gets well soon!

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