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Devoted April 2018

Need encouragement

Kelly , on April 1, 2018 at 2:49 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 2

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I don’t know that I have the energy to post all that has gone down, but longs story short, we decided to elope and FH wanted his mom and bro there and all they’ve done is yell at me and blame me for the decision and tell me I’m breaking up the family bc of the decision. And no one has really expressed any excitement or support over us getting married. It’s in two weeks and FH and I are feeling especially sad and disappointed over it. It’s just like we had this exciting idea for a ceremony and it’s just become this chore for them and we just want it over with at this point.
Someone remind me about how in the day of it won’t matter. Someone tell me the anger and sadness we feel will go away. Anyone else experience anything like this? I thought 2 weeks away and people would just be thrilled for us and it doesn’t seem like anyone gives a care....

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Latest activity by Kelly , on April 1, 2018 at 5:46 PM

Just Said Yes April 2018
Leah · on April 1, 2018 at 4:11 PM
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Try not to stress too much! Your FH's family probably envisioned a wedding for him, and they're just upset that it's not happening that way. It's also probably hard for your FH's mom to let go of her baby boy. Maybe have your FH sit down with his family alone and explain that it was his decision as well so it's not fair for them to place blame on you or to suggest you're breaking up the family. And have him (calmly) explain that you're eloping in two weeks and would love to have them there and involved but it's up to them to decide. Hopefully they'll come around and realize they want to be there to support the two of you, but if they don't then that's their decision and one they'll have to live with forever.
And when it comes down to it, the end goal is for you and your FH to end up married, so as long as that happens it was a successful day and nothing else matters. Try to focus on that and the excitement you get at being your FH's future wife. Good luck!! I hope his family comes around.
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Devoted April 2018
Kelly · on April 1, 2018 at 5:46 PM
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He’s done all that. His mom has accepted it’s him too but keeps complaining about it. It’s like she feels obligated to come and is frustrated it isn’t conveient. She suggested elopement but bc we are eloping, and it’s small, she or his bro don’t feel like it’s worth traveling for (their words). And then she keeps trying to invite people to it.
His bro accepted from FH that it wasn’t just me, but still is ignoring me. And I feel helpless and frustrated and nervous about marrying into this when I’ve done nothing to warrant this treatment and have bent over backwards for his family for the past 3 years. And FH and I keep fighting over it so that isn’t helping either.
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