My sister and her tattoos

You don't. She isn't a photo prop, she's your sister and her tattoos are part of her.

She is your sister. If you want her to stand up for your wedding, you respect her for who she is.

The only time I would consider it ok to ask a MOH or BM or anyone to cover a tattoo was if your venue was a church or something and they had strict rules about that.

ETA: you really think her tattoo would take the focus away from you in your wedding photos? You're the bride. No one will look at you and then be like "oh wait oh my god what the fuck is up with that girl's tattoo?!"

I am on the fence about this. I have tattoos but they are in places that are normally covered (torso and back) because of my profession. It is your wedding...but it is also her body. Maybe she thought you were judging her for the tattoos and got defensive? There is a fine line to walk here...I'm not sure which way I lean.

How about lace sleeves? The air would flow, and they wouldn't be too hot. It would cover the tatoo, but not in an obvious way. You could see through the sleeves, so her tat would be visable, but wouldn't show in pictures.

Like so:

^^^^^^ditto^^^^^^

My sister had bright pink hair, she'll stand out in the pics, she stands out everywhere she goes but you can't ask her to cover up her tat, it's who she is!

@Lisa Im with you!

Fuck what I said, do the lace sleeves or illusion sleeves, now go hug it out!

Since she got mad when you brought up covering her tat, I think you need to decide whats more important: having your sister as your MOH or not. The tats are part of her and clearly are important to her. Since the tat is on her right arm, maybe just have her stand on your left so it isn't as noticable in the pictures.

One of my bridesmaids has tattoo's on her arm. I never considered it an issue, its who she is and I love her. I have to be honest and say that I never noticed them in a single picture. It definitely didn't take the focus off of us.

You don't have to like her tattoos, but you do love her. just get over it.

@Caitlin S. WHERE did you find that dress???!!!

Op, I'm like Kate. Mine are in my back(for now). But my dress will show them. It also showed during my MOHs wedding, and 1 could be viewed racist. But she wouldn't have dreamed of asking to cover it, bc she has more than I, and knows they tell a story(usually!), of who a person is.

Have her stand so that her arm is directed away from the camera. A good photog should be able to direct her so that her tatoo isn't front and center. My sister also has 3 huge roses on her shoulder and arm, and might even have a half sleeve by the time I get married and she is my maid of honor. It won't bother me that much. If she had your best intentions in mind, she will make an effort of making sure her tattoo isn't front and center the whole time

Can you just have her stand certain ways in the pictures so that it doesn't show?

Edited to add that I have a fairly large tattoo on my back that I waited until I was 35 to get..I bought a strapless gown so this would be able to be seen. However I realize not everyone feels this way

@Caitlin...^^what Cheetah said. Where did you find that dress??

You dont want to know where I found this dress.

http://www.terijon.com/shop/cocktail-dresses/navy-lace-cocktail-dress-with-sleeves/pid/1231/9?gclid=CJr_psaC07oCFQGe4AodPTIAbQ#P=F

Sorry

Thanks everyone for the advice. I have thought about turning her in the pics. But during the ceremony unless we switch sides, there will be no way to avoid seeing it. I'm sure it comes across as I don't accept her. I do. She knows that. I just don't like that big, bold, in your face tattoo. Oh, did I mention she's a redhead, so we got some temper there too. lol. I DO really like that lace sleeve idea. I'll have to research that some more.

My MOH has numerous tattoos & I can't imagine how upset she might be if I ever asked her to cover them, which I would NEVER do, but at the same time, I think she would cover them out of respect for my day, but she just wouldn't be very happy about it. If your sister was very upset when you mentioned to her about covering the tattoo, then I would just let it go. As long as it's not obscene, there's no reason she NEEDS to cover it. I'm sure your photog will work with you if you want to be sure her tattoo is not visible in your pics. Good luck!

I agree with @Courtney S. As long as it's not offensive, there is no reason why she would need to cover it. I can promise it won't take the focus off you, the bride.

I have several tattoos and every time I've been in a wedding party, I've asked the bride if she wants me to cover them. They've all said no, as the tattoos are a part of me. (On the same note, one of my bridesmaids has a full sleeve and she was worried that it would attract attention but I told her not to worry about it. It's part of her -- I asked ALL of her to be a bridesmaid.)

If you're really that dead-set against it, I'd work with the photog to find some different angles.

If the pictures are your main concern, any pro photog will be able to photoshop the tattoo out.