My moh got engaged right after me..

I wouldn't change your date and she shouldn't change hers. You guys get one day not a whole season. I really don't think it's a big deal.

I understand where you’re coming from about planning everything around the same time being stressful, but I really don’t think it will be an issue!
Just set aside some time if you can to plan a couple things for your wedding and then a couple things for her wedding. I’m sure it will be a lot of fun!

I agree on not changing your date. Do you have a lot of overlapping guests who would need to travel? They may not be able to make the trip twice.

One of my bridesmaids got married one year before me, and we let our overlapping out of town guests know that we completely understand if they can't make the trip for our wedding too, since we know it's expensive. There are 4 guests in that category. I'll be sad if they can't come, but there is really nothing to be done about it. I can't control when my friend gets married, and we weren't going to change our date for just a few people.

I don't think it's that big a deal and I am glad you are not like some people who would get annoyed at her for stealing your spotlight and want her to change her date lol. If you'd rather have more time between the events though, then you have every right to move your own date up and I don't think that's unreasonable to do! While you do only get "one day" I do understand wanting to have your own designated timeframes, where you have a time period where YOU get to be the bride and then another time period where your friend gets to, especially when it's with someone you are so close with and so involved in each other's weddings. Looks like you're planning October 2020 right now? So if you did like spring 2020 you'd still have plenty of time to plan, and your wedding would be very spaced out from hers.

6 weeks apart is plenty of time. I would keep the dates the way they are.

6 weeks is plenty of time between dates. However, since your date isn't set in stone and it sounds like you haven't booked a venue yet, you technically don't have a date yet.

How exciting for the both of you! Each of you just need to do what is best for you. Six weeks isn't horrible, though. I'm guessing it'll be harder on you than on her, since your wedding comes after hers. Something to think about/prepare yourself for. But, you both know what you are getting into, so I'm sure you guys can handle it.

I agree with PPs that 6 weeks between is plenty of time, but I totally get why you might want to move yours. You want to be able to dedicate time solely to each other's weddings because you're best friends, and maybe planning your own weddings might take some of your focus away. I say since you don't have a venue or a set date, go ahead and move it.

6 weeks apart sounds fine. She should be having hers after you since you were proposed to first, in my opinion.

I agree with others. 6 weeks is plenty of time. If your MOH knows of your current date, it may also look like you're changing your date to "race" to be married first.

My best friend and I are having our weddings 6 weeks apart and everything is going well. We have overlapping bridesmaids as well along with being in each other’s weddings. And our fiancés also being in both weddings. Overall I think it’s been fun we’ve been good about making each person feel special when it’s their time to shine at bachelorettes and stuff. But also it’s nice to have somebody to always wedding plan with and know what you’re going through. We just did her bachelorette this month and her wedding is end of May. My bachelorette is in middle of June with wedding in first of July. Our friend group loves it because we are all getting to spend so much time together this summer.
I wouldn’t stress if your dates are close together, overall it will all be just fine!!

Don't change it, that's silly. Unless you have it a full year before hers changing it now won't make it that much easier for anyone. My FH's best man got engaged right after us and they're having their wedding not long after us. It's making money a bit tight for both us and them since we're paying for our wedding and paying to attend their wedding celebrations.

But, as we said, we're best friends, we'll make it work. Everyone else will make it work too.

Honestly, if you changes yours to be earlier than hers, it makes it sound like you just want to get married before her. And she probably picked her date knowing that it wouldn't be a conflict with yours.

6 weeks seems like a good amount of time, I'd just leave as is!

Thank you all! We really are leaning toward sticking with our tentative date (the venue is holding it for us, we just have to take the plunge!) and the general consensus seems to be that 6 weeks is a good amount of time, so I feel better now

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Chnaging your date sooner as a reaction to her choice looks kinda petty.

6 weeks should be fine.

I wouldn't change anything based on her date. 6 weeks is enough apart.

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I don't agree with this. I think I might be a bit offended if someone planned their wedding before mine after getting engaged afterwards. But it would be a small annoyance that I would probably only talk to FH about.....I have a long engagement (sounds like OP does too). and if someone else gets engaged in the next few months and can plan 1 year turn around I don't think they should wait longer just to be "after me" .

Also I know you were stating your opinion, im just offering mine too. not trying to come across as attacky at all.