My friend and i are both engaged

I don't really see a problem here. If she wants to talk about your wedding, then its not you that's "making her events all about you".

I agree with PP. It sounds like she doesn't have a problem talking about your wedding during "her time." I would just enjoy being able to talk to my friend about each other's weddings.

What is wrong with her asking about your wedding? I dont understand

Yeah I don’t see why you don’t want her to ask about your wedding. If she wasn’t interested she wouldn’t ask!

I think it's fine to chat about your wedding with her if she asks how it's going. It's not really making it all about you.

I don't see the problem either. My fiance's brother is getting married 5 weeks after us and his fiancee and I talk all the time about our weddings. It helps us both vent and get ideas.

Simply tell her that you would like to focus on her and that you look forward to celebrating her first and then having her support for yours.

One of my best friends and I are also both engaged. She got engaged exactly a month after me. She is getting married in October, and I am getting married next month. I completely understand where your friend is coming from. I love sharing this time with her. I often wonder if she feels the same as you feel. When we went to bridesmaid fitting, the girl asked who is the bride? I said we both are... kind of confused the consultant lol. I ask her about her wedding also because I know she is planning most of it herself, and I am not. I am not doing much, my mom is doing most of it. so i always want to be there if she needs anything. I also vent to her and she vents to me.

She probably sees it as a bonding thing - if she's the one bringing it up I don't think you're making it about you in any way.

My cousin and best friend aren't even engaged yet but when we get together and talk about my wedding we tend to get sidetracked and fantasize about what they'll do for their weddings as well. I think it's fun!

Now, if you don't want to talk about wedding planning because you find it stressful or something, then I would say just be honest with her about that.

A little different- but my maid of honor is pregnant and I’m planning her baby shower while she’s planning my bridal shower/bachelorette party. So we both have big life events going on. Just make sure you are as excited and active about checking in as she is. It’s ok to talk about your wedding while doing stuff for hers! You are both excited, so share that mutual excitement! I love that my best friend and I get to be there for each other for these things. And I feel so loved when she is constantly wanting to make sure everything is good and hear all about the wedding planning. She makes me more excited for everything. Just try to do the same for your friend, and I’m sure it will be hugely appreciated!

She’s most likely just trying to relate. Kind of refreshing?

I have just went thru the same thing. My best friend just got married in Oct. I was her MOH, and While we were planning her wedding, she would always want to talk about my wedding planning. I felt horrible because i thought that i was taking away her enjoyment of her planning and her big day. So I asked her nicely to not asks me anything about my wedding, while we were doing things for hers do to the fact that I thought it was taking light away from her planning/wedding and that it made me feel awful because of it. Soo she agreed, we went back to planning her wedding. After her wedding was over, we both started planning mine. If she is your friend she will totally understand your feelings, just like mine did and things will work out great! Good luck!

I understand why you don't want to take attention off of her. However, if she is asking the questions then I think she's genuinely curious and you shouldn't worry about it!