my diy constellation menu, evite and wine labels

Tier 2 people are the people in our groups who we seldomly see but love wholeheartedly who also know and understand our financial woes and didn't expect to be invited. we got pleasantly surprised by our venue capacity and after evaluating things are able to scrimp enough to invite people for a diy midnight snack, dessert and free booze

25-30 people who we know will be more than happy to skip the boring stuff and party it up with us after

so yeah....i got totally blasted for being rude on the other forum.... even after explaining that we are certain the tier 2 people will be cool with it and happy to come after. we really put careful thought into it to make sure we didn't insult anyone...I still think the people will just be happy that they get to celebrate with us...

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They look beautiful! Are they totally in english? All the QC weddings I've been to were bilingual invites (then french ceremonies I understand like 10% of!). I love them though!

2 tiered weddings are always rude.

Since you don't care about that I also think it's rude that these second rate guests have to come at midnight. I am not about to sit around all night waiting to go to someone's wedding after party at midnight

Two tier is the norm back in Ireland and people expect it and don't feel put out by it so as long as your guest won't take offence happy days , they look lovely

Nope we have french ones too...but they're exactly the same. my FH translated everything. we're having a completely bilingual wedding. anglaphone quebecer marrying a pur laine quebec frenchie hehehe. the guest list is split down the middle 50/50 french english.

Sorry, you won't find people here loving your tiered wedding because you're so chill.

Gorgeous! I like the "chill midnight snack" language. It definitely conveys the spirit of the event!

Spinoff question: would you know where to find French language invitations online? All my google searches end up with Parisian themed invitations in English. :/

It's a different culture though. What's rude here is not rude elsewhere and vice versa. No reason to hate on her wedding. @Jess T. They are gorgeous! I love the design.

They don't come at midnight. we're inviting them for 9:30 after we're sure the meal will be done and they get to party we're just serving a midnight snack at midnight. it's clear on the wedding site.

I love them! This is the 1st i heard about 2-Tiered wedding. I don't think anyone has a right to give you hell about it ( on here) if its a common thing in Quebec and something your guest are totally used to.

I love the invites. I'm not a fan of a tiered reception, but I sort of understand if it's culture. This doesn't happen in America often and is considered highly rude, so you will get some honest answers. Just be prepared.

Ashley g you could not possibly be more wrong - they are not "always" rude.

They are the norm in some countries and no one gets their knickers in a twist over it because it's perfectly acceptable so to generalise it like that is ridiculous

Also, even though we're inviting them for 9:30 we are 100% certain these people won't start showing up until well after 11...they're all friends and local and they're the type of people who party late and like to have a good time and are well..french quebecois...hehe

I get the haters..lol. we seriously made sure that it wasn't a secret and that everyone we know would be hurt was invited to the entire thing. I know there will be many i will not be able to convince otherwise, but we know our peeps and no one will be hurt by this.

I can respect the culture and the tiers but I have to say, if I were tier 2, I wouldn't be staying up till midnight to go to the end of someone's reception for a late night snack.

ETA: Missed your other post where you said they'd be coming at 9:30.

I'm not going to argue if you insist it's a cultural thing, but wouldn't it just be simpler to ditch the photo booth and midnight snack and allow the extra 25 people to be regular guests for dinner?

Yes your invites are really good and you are very talented. I will also add that I am apart of the bunch that believe the entire setup of your wedding is rude, no matter how you spin it.

ETA: Chrissy makes a wonderfully awesome point!

Love your menu, evite, and wine label. Gorgeous! I don't take the two tier thing personally. Their are definitely people who fall more into that category. My DH's family is huge and we even had to limit cousins to those he is actually close with and sees on a regular basis. With our limited budget and paying for it ourselves. At the end of the day people should understand. It is your day. I do know people say it's rude but I'd rather have a second group than not invite at all.

It's not rude if it's a cultural norm where she is from. If she said hey I'm having my wedding in New York and I'm doing it this way, then sure. But would you go to a wedding in another culture and complain about all the "rude" things?

^Yes I would........

Maybe this would go better on forum with majority Canadians