MOH - My Sister - Vent/Rant - Need advise

She also wanted to send out the Bachelorette and Bridal shower invites before the wedding invites have even gone out...saying "I want to get them out the way." I cant believe my sister would do this...My other bridesmaids have done so much, one of which is here and emails me almost everyday with such excitement. My sister's response "You didn't do much for my wedding" yet she was engaged for only 3 months, I will be engaged for a year before my wedding...So hurt and depressed. Have been so happy until this

My bridal shower invites went out before the wedding invites because my shower was first.

Sorry you're having issues. Maybe she feels that since you did so much three months before her wedding that she has time since you're still 7 months out? Also since she's already married, perhaps the excitement of weddings, for her, has run its course (I found that with my bridesmaids).

I agree with Erica. talk to her and let her know how you feel.

Maybe it's a difference in personalities. I can totally see myself doing what you did, but if I expected the same of my sister I'd end up really disappointed. We're just really different, even though we get along fine.

It can't hurt to let her know how you feel, but think back and see if it's always sort of been this way.

It sounds like you went above and beyond for your sister. She is at a different stage in her life right now and may not physically be able to do the same for you. Can you put her wedding out of your mind and focus on what she HAS done for you?

I'm having the same problem (though, when I posted about it here, everyone must have been on the rag because I got eaten alive about how your MOH is required to do ANYTHING for you).

It seems like all relationships are slightly (or obviously) one sided. Maybe you should remind her in a gentle way of how much you were there for her and would love for her to be there for you in the same way.

Thanks everyone, talking to you all about this makes it so much better! Thank you!

Erica and KatieDMD I think youre right in that shes now married and the excitement of weddings has run out for her. She actually has done so little that its hard to focus on what she has done though...

And yes @ We'llalwayshaveParis that we are different in personalities and I must try to understand that. Its just hard when you've only grown up with one sister, one sibling whose supposed to want to share in your excitement and wedding.

Katie, Ive talked to her over and over again and nothing has changed. Ive actually given up. The final straw was her sending me a list of her life from the minute she wakes up till the minute she goes to bed...and also saying "I'll give you one day"...

I've actually decided that she will do nothing for my wedding, I don't even want her to plan my bacherlorette party/bridal shower coz its such a mission for her...