MOH is unwilling to make a change in her schedule for my wedding...

As much as you want her in your wedding it may not be possible because she is a Mom 1st & a friend 2nd & that's the way it should be. The county fair may seem silly to you but if her kids have been raising these animals for a while & are really excited to show their animals she wants to be there for them. I think asking her to choose between you & her kids is wrong & she will feel guilty either way you look at it.(My opinion only)

Is it possible to change the date to the next open date at that venue? That way everyone should be happy.

You are her very good friend, but her children have been involved in preparing, probably in their 4-H Club, for their ribbons, and is the activity that they have signed up for through their club and are judged on the way they have care for their animals, the way they present their beloved animals, etc.

Even though it sounds like almost a year away and they can change their plans next year for your wedding, it is a yearly event that they are committed to and are judged on their accomplishments through the club. I was in 4-H when I was a child.

Thank you, I do understand what it's like to work hard for things like 4H...I was on a swim team for 12yrs. But we have change our date to accommodate others already. The venue that we want only has the two dates that she will be busy.

Is there a possibility you can have it later in the evening if not remember as much as you want her there is as much as you wanna marry the man of your dreams which one comes first she will always be your friend but your wedding is a big moment and you need a MOH that will be there for you every second possible.

Is the venue available in another month maybe?

Perhaps the best thing you could do is make a list of the most important people you want there (parents, MOH, Best Man) and find a date that works for everyone. It may be a little later or earlier in the year, but you will have everyone there. In the end, I think that is more important than having the perfect wedding date.

I would say find someone else. As harsh as that may sound weddings are stressful enough without you having to change the day of your big day for someone else. My original MOH lives out of state and will have recently had a baby. I felt bad but I told her that I thought it would be too much on her and that was that. She will be at the wedding but as a guest. A true friend will understand.

Thank you to all that have responded... Luckily we(groom&me) was able to get the date I originally wanted with the venue we wanted and not interrupting my MOH with her children.

So glad to read it all worked out! Good for you! All the best!

Congrats!... you're a great friend.