Last name change

There's absolutely nothing bad about wanting to keep your name! As PPs posters mentioned, it's becoming more and more common. If you still want to incorporate your fiancé's name into yours, you could do as some have mentioned and take your current name as your middle name, or you could even hyphenate. However, that's only if you really want to include his name in yours. We have just as much right to our names as men and you should not feel pressured to change yours.

I can’t get rid of my last name. It literally makes me cry thinking about it.

I don’t think it’s bad or means you love him even less. Express your feelings towards him and I’m pretty sure he will understand.

Whether or not you change your last name is 100% a personal choice. Your FH is allowed to have an opinion on the matter but at the end of the day it is your decision. I would talk to him and explain how you feel. He may be fine with you keeping your name, hyphenating your name, or even him taking your name. This is 2018.

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Thank you for this advice! I have been hesitant to be excited about changing my last name because my last name has so many memories for me, whereas my FHs last name doesn't seem as significant to him as mine does to me (we've talked about it). The only reason he really wants to keep his name is because he is an only child and his father was an only child so he is the last one with his last name. I've been playing along with the whole thing lately to help it sound better and get used to it but thinking about losing my last name does make me sad sometimes. This advice really helped though and I appreciate it! Our last names are too similar to really make mine my middle name or to hyphenate.

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Why do you feel guilty? Does your future husband feel guilty that he's not taking your last name? There's really no logical reason why one spouse is expected to change their last name versus the other spouse.

Absolutely not. There is no law saying you have to change you're last name.

I never realized what a passionate subject this was for people! Since I got married March 16 I have been asked so many times about changing my name or not or what am I going to do. And then I get such harsh critcism from people who are very anti keeping your maiden name. I didn’t know there were so many people at work or in my life who were so opinionated or cared so much. Geesh!
With that being said I think I am either going to move my last name to middle or just keep it the way it is. Professionally I would want to keep my last name. But If people call me by my husbands last name I won’t correct them.