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Maria
Devoted August 2017

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Maria, on November 4, 2017 at 4:31 PM Posted in Married Life 0 114

Did you decide to drop your last name and take your husband's? Use both? What and why did you decide? Details pls Smiley smile I was thinking of just dropping my last name but now maybe having both. So confused.

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Latest activity by Nikki, on November 8, 2017 at 10:34 AM
  • amandaaok
    VIP June 2018
    amandaaok ·
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    I want to have my husband's because it is a hell of a lot easier than my maiden name. Lol

    However, I don't wanna go through all the b.s. involved with it (banks,credit cards,job,health ins., drivers license,passport blah blah blah) so I'm still trying to decide if it will be an "unofficial" name taking or if I'll go through all the nonsense.

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  • Joanna
    Expert October 2017
    Joanna ·
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    I have no attachment to my maiden name so I am in the process of changing my name to his.

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  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
    Dreamer ·
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    I come from a long line of non name changers. My parents have been happily married almost 40 years and my mother didn't change her name. My uncle married a woman who didn't change her name. The 4 cousins were given hyphenated last names, to reflect both sides of their families. A number of kids we went to school with had hyphenated last names = no problems in life, whatsoever.

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  • Bulbasaur
    Devoted September 2020
    Bulbasaur ·
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    I'm dropping mine and taking his because I like his last name and it gives me cute initials.

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  • Mrs.hays
    VIP April 2018
    Mrs.hays ·
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    I will be going with FHs last name. I've never even thought about keeping mine after marriage and it is very important to FH that I take his name.

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  • pammat
    VIP October 2017
    pammat ·
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    Didn't change my name 25 years ago, didn't change it this time.

    My niece kept hers, my niece in law kept hers, and my SIL kept hers.

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  • Boardgamegeek27
    Dedicated February 2021
    Boardgamegeek27 ·
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    I'm keeping mine and he is keeping his Smiley smile it's a professional choice as well as a feminist one.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    In my husband's culture, traditionally the women keep their maiden name and add the married name with "de", hence my screen name. My full name is six "names" long. I love it because it was a tradition in his family but his brother's wife doesn't like his family so his mother was afraid I'd skip it as well.

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    Dedicated April 2019
    Gaby ·
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    Although I like my last name I've very traditional and decided to take his last name. That's just my own preference. Whatever will make you happy Smiley smile

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  • Jillian
    Devoted August 2018
    Jillian ·
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    I'm going to change mine, though I'm totally not looking forward to all the bs paperwork that comes with it. My FH actually didn't think I should at first but I really want my family to all have the same last name (I'm a teacher and I know if can be annoying sometimes when parents/kids don't have the same name). I do feel bad that my dads name will end with my sister, my female cousin, and I though if they choose to change their names.

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  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
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    "... annoying sometimes when parents/kids don't have the same name)."

    Since the U.S. divorce rate is above 50%, and it's certainly not unheard of to have children before or outside of marriage, there's a hellofalotof students who don't have the same last name as either/both of their parents/step-parents/parental figure.

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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
    Kiwibride ·
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    Keeping mine. I've had it my whole life and see no need to change. Changing it would actually cause more problems. It's how I'm known professionally and what I've been published under.

    Agree with OGA, my FH had no opinion on the matter, he knew it was my decision. If he thought otherwise, it would have been a big problem

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  • Tracy
    Dedicated October 2018
    Tracy ·
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    I'm taking his last name.

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  • Constance
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    Constance ·
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    I'm adding his and having two middle names. So it's First Middle Maiden Last.

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    Savvy November 2017
    Marissa ·
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    This has been a long decision making process for me! I have decided to take his last name, drop my middle name and take maiden as middle. Sort of "having it both ways," but without having a hyphenated or double barreled last name that is 15 letters and 3 syllables.

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  • KRM
    Dedicated October 2018
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    I'm changing mine because I have little attachment to my name, which comes from my dad who has made it very apparent that I (and my siblings) mean very little to him. Originally, my mother's maiden name was my last name before he pressured her to change it.

    If I still had my mother's maiden name, I'd be less inclined to change it. But, FH has a lovely family who has loved and accepted me quite unlike any other family I've encountered before. So, I'm excited to take a new name.

    I also write and publish novels and to avoid confusion on that, I'm going to keep my maiden name as my pen name.

    Again, it's all personal choice.

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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
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    I'm hyphenating or dropping middle, and making maiden my middle. Unsure yet.

    I have a son from a previous relationship, so I'd like to have same last name as him, and add FH's last name. My son wants me to hyphenate.

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  • Ksenia
    Savvy May 2018
    Ksenia ·
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    Im taking his last name. I like the thought of us having the same name, and his is much easier to spell than my maiden. Im looking forward to not having my last name misspelled or mispronounced all the time.

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  • Annie
    VIP October 2018
    Annie ·
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    I'm taking FH's last name, but will use my maiden name at work.

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  • FutureFrames
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    I love my first last name but hate my second last name (its given me hell at school, SS, work etc.) I remember when i wanted to keep my name how it is, then i slowly said to maybe hyphenate it but now I can't wait to change my name to my FH's, I feel like it'll just be more simple.

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