KWR - Pregnant BM/FSIL

Don't change anything. If she can attend, she will.

I have not personally experienced this.But I don't think I would change any of the dates of anything. I would just know that she may not be able to attend. And if she does, then she may actually go into labor. Which would be okay too in my opinion.

Unfortunately there isn't much you can do. That baby is going to come when it wants to. I wouldn't change any of the dates for your stuff, but closer to the events I would talk to her and let her know she is welcome to participate in anything she is comftorable with. I remember being 9 months pregnant and absolutely miserable so she may want to lay down rather than go out.

I just already have it in my head that my sister is going to go into labor at my wedding (her due date is 2 weeks later) so if it actually does happen it'll already be part of the plan

There isn't anything you can do. Baby comes when baby is ready. I would make sure she knows to not feel pressured to be at anything if she isn't feeling up for it. Don't change any dates, she will be at what she can if she's feeling up for it and if she can't, you know it's nothing personal.

That's a good idea JCC to JCB.

I guess my concern is that I don't want to feel selfish.

You don't want to feel selfish by not planning things around her potential birth? It's not selfish to keep on going the way things are originally planned. Just don't be mad at her if she can't make it and you'll be all good.

I don't think it is selfish. I would just let her know that she if she is able to participate, if even just for part of it, she can. I'm sure she will completely understand.

Don't change anything.

My sister had a baby 4 days ago and yesterday went out for the 1st time, to the baby's 1st pediatrician check-up. Last night she had one hour's sleep. I doubt she will be going anywhere, except for her own doctor's appointment next week, the first few weeks after birth.

I don't think she will think you're selfish. In her mind right now, mama and baby are the most important things to her. Everyone will always be in a different stage of life and we can't rearrange things to accommodate for everyone. No one will think you're selfish for keeping things as they were originally planned.

ETA: Basically if you keep things as planned she may or may not be able to attend things, but if you rearrange a date or time, then you might inconvenience others.

Thanks for the advise.. Much appreciated ladies