Is it time for me to ask bridesmaids?

11 months is way too long.

What's a suggestion of when I should be thinking about asking?

I think I asked my bridesmaids right around the 10 month mark. It gave them enough time to save up and begin planning.

I think it depends though. Will any of your bridal party need to travel? If so, I'd ask them sooner than later.

Also, assuming you are asking people you're close to? If you're considering asking Someone you haven't been friends with long, I'd hold off. Things change and you don't want any regrets.

Usually around the eight month mark.

So many things can happen if you ask now and then your obligated to keep them unless they bow out.

I would say if you absolutely need to because you know they will need to budget it in and save for a dress ask in another month.

If you can hold out until 8 months I would.

I agree with Ashley N

Personally I asked at the 10 or 9 month mark (I cant remember) I was excited and like to plan ahead. I asked they said yes and that was that. I just didn't bring up any wedding stuff until it was closer.

Edit: We also had 2 grooms men drop out so I'm glad we asked early.

I think it depends on who your wedding party is .. and you know them best. Mine is my sister and my best friends since elementary school. I don't expect relationships to change and I want them to have plenty enough time to save (and also be with me through all the planning)!!

You're getting narried in May. If it were me, I would ask late August/early September. However, start looking at BM dresses so you can at least give them a price range.

I would wait until 8 months out. Things can change in relationships

8-9 months. That's plenty of time.

And please, if they do drop out, don't replace them as an above poster implied they did. They should be your nearest and dearest, meaning they aren't replaceable.

I asked my bridal party around a 14 months ahead of time. The majority of posters on here will say that's too early, for the main reason the relationships can change if you have too long of a gap between when you ask and your wedding.

Use your best judgment on whether or not having more than the "typical" 9ish months is needed in your case.

For reference, my situation: my 6 girls are spread out over 4 states, some of which are 6-9 hr drives away. Some of them are also in Graduate school, meaning money is "tighter", others work shift work and work rotating shifts/holidays. So planning early is essential. My MOH is my sister, my matr OH is my best friend of 8 years. Other than one, I've known the others for 8-14 years, so I don't anticipate any "relationship" issues.

I asked right away ... but nothing will changed best friends for over 20 years with both .. the rest are put kids lol

Is it destination or local? Also, I don't think it is appropriate to ask to see their budgets!!!

Mine are my daughter, sister, and 2 best friends. They have all been asked and accepted, but we've all discussed it previously so there was no surprise and highly unlikely to be any issues.

Some people say to wait, but I think you know your friends best. My wedding party is my sister, FH's brother, and FH's two teenagers. We asked them all within a week of being engaged.

I just asked mine, and mine wedding is in February. Both of my bridesmaids are out of state, and both recently started new jobs, I wanted to give everyone notice and cause as less stress as possible.

You'll get a lot of "it's way too early" but honestly, you are the only one who knows your situation. Use your best judgment. I asked mine about a year and a half in advance because they are all family members and I know all of them will n d advance notice to plan ahead and budget. I'm a planner and doing things ahead of schedule so I don't have to stress later on. There is more risk with doing things early so just be aware and be sure before you do anything.

I believe I asked mine about 9 or 10 months out - you could stand to wait a month or two!

I asked mine nearly a year out. It's definitely a know your situation thing. I asked that far out because 1) I've known most of these girls forever and knew it'd be fine and 2) two of them were pregnant at the time and I wanted to make sure I gave them enough time to set money aside.

I asked as soon as we got engaged, which was 16 months out. I asked my sister, FSIL, and 4 best friends from the different states I've lived in. Two of them I've known for 20 years.

We have 3 months to go and no issues. I had never even heard of the 6-8 months ahead of time thing until after I had already asked.