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Is it rude to...?*bridal shower*

Maggie, on July 11, 2018 at 5:28 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
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My FH was raised by his mom, aunt , and grandma. They are all very special to him. I love them, but they can be pushy. They assumed they would throw me a bridal shower for their side of the family only.
Most of my family is men, and if I had split showers I would have about 6 people at my sides. Plus two showers seems like a lot of stress......

So I kinda shut down this separate shower idea by asking (telling lol) them if we could do it all on one day. Do you think that was rude? Or am I overthinking?

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Latest activity by MrsD, on July 12, 2018 at 12:43 PM
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    Expert October 2018
    Nicole ·
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    No I don't think you were rude, especially if your side is so small. It's very stressful to have more than one shower.
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated October 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    I dont think its rude at all. The idea of separate showers is odd to me. I've never seen that done. And if your side is only 6 people it's not like it would be breaking the bank to add them to their shower plans.
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2019
    Maggie ·
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    Right? I kinda thought it was rude that they would even try to exclude my family......... plus my MOH’s (sister and best friend) wanted to plan my shower anyway.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Nope not rude at all! We are having two showers just because all of my family/friends are in Texas and all of my FH’s are in California so we are having one in each state. But if y’all are all in the same place I would definitely combine it.
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  • Taryn
    Devoted July 2018
    Taryn ·
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    That's not rude at all, if they throw you one anyway, you can't do a lot about it, but suggesting all in one is totally appropriate!

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  • Rebecca
    Devoted May 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Interesting... Where I am from (down south) numerous showers for separate sides is DEFF a thing, also expected

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    Maggie ·
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    It’s so interesting how things can differ so much depending on the area you live in. Showers are a lot of stress, I just can’t imagine doing more than one lol
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  • e=mc
    Savvy March 2020
    e=mc ·
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    Its not rude- two showers is pretty standard. I feel like if you're calling them rude there's some deeper issues going on. Try to stay out of any intricate planning of your shower moving forward.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I don't think it's rude. It's unnecessary to have 2 showers! Since you're only adding 6 people, could you contribute for extra cost or could your family's side contribute?

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