My fiancé and I live about 4 hours apart. We originally planned on doing things more towards him because his family is larger than mine. However, as time has gone by- it’s been really difficult to look at venues/florists/caterers/djs etc. etc. I feel like I’m just looking at everything online and it’s getting jumbled up in my head. I think it would be easier if my fiancé was more *into* planning (all of you ladies feel me?).
The biggest part of us choosing towards where he is was that we were going to invite all of his family (roughly 100-150) from his side. But he’s recently expressed he’d rather only have about 30-40(in total. Not from his side) close friends and family. So I thought it would make things a lot easier if we made the wedding location where I am.
I found the cutest venue here that I’d like to make a deposit on but we keep going back and forth on the idea. He thinks it’s inappropriate to ask 15-20 people to drive 3-4 hours away. And I said that’s why we send invitations. They have the opportunity to decline and it is completely up to them. But he is extremely hung up in the logistics- my family would have to drive just as far to him so I truly don’t understand what the big issue is here. Especially since I’m doing 99.9% of the planning. Am I wrong? Is it completely inappropriate to ask close friends/family to drive a few hours? Is there a happy medium here?
