Honeymoon donations?

Donations are for charities. Your honeymoon isn’t a charity. If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t register and your guests will gift cash.

I know that my family and friends won’t give cash, they will all just buy something(that fits us) if I’m not registered somewhere...

View Quoted Comment Then taking up “donations” for your honeymoon isn’t going to change that either.

I’m saying as if I don’t let them know that we aren’t wanting “gifts” they will bring gifts because it’s just not said otherwise ☺️

I have a Zola registry with a honeymoon fund, along with some physical gifts listed. We have a ton of stuff, but I chose items that we could use as upgrades, if guests choose to buy them, and then we would donate the not-as-nice stuff we have right now. I don’t see anything wrong with a honeymoon fund—some guests will want to give cash anyway, so what’s the difference?

View Quoted Comment We legit got like practically everything new this past Christmas and throughout the year haha! So like we honestly have so much stuff in this house right now, we need to get rid of half of it. Plus I don’t want to pack the car up with gifts when we are going to be getting ready for honeymoon. I just don’t want all the hassle lol! Nor feel like it should be anyone else responsibility to do it for us! I’ve heard that Zola sometimes didn’t give everyone all their money?? So I didn’t trust it!

There are many honeymoon funds out there - Zola, Wanderable and Honeyfund are a few.

Many people get extremely offended at the idea of honeymoon registries on WW, but it's 2019 and most people getting married don't need extra stuff. Just do a honeymoon fund via a site and people will get the idea. Anyone who doesn't want to use the site will bring a check to the wedding (personally I don't want a bunch of money sitting on my wedding table and I hope people use the site instead).

View Quoted Comment That’s true! But how soon do you get that money to you once your wedding is over? Since it’s be towards honeymoon and we are leaving right after. I’m also worried about sites taking any money or anything!

View Quoted Comment Or I’ve noticed how the sites have fees to give the bride and groom a donation!

Yes! All the "sites" have fees. If your guests are likely to want to give you physical gifts, even if you "don't want them," there's not much you can do about that. Guests still get to choose if they want to give a gift and what they want to give. I completely agree with PP that "donations" are for charities. My understanding is that all "honeyfund" type sites charge a fee (that is, reduce the monetary value of a gift the guest intended to give you) AND they don't give you the funds until a few weeks after the wedding date. (Honeyfunds are a business -- their goal is to hold on to YOUR money for as long as they can.) In some circles, it is considered incredibly rude to "ask" for cash, so unless you really "know your crowd" the honeyfund/request for cash can potentially backfire. You can WANT cash, but that doesn't mean your guests have to give it to you.

Most people here don’t like wedding funds and will tell you to say you’re not registered to suggest guests should give you cash. You can do that.

We used Honeyfund (and two retail registries). The 2% fee or whatever is tiny. Just do not include your registry info in invites or anywhere. Wait for guests to ask if you’re registered, then you can tell them. 😊

The last few weddings I've been invited to and have been in the couples decided on doing a honeymoon fund rather than getting gifts and it worked out perfect for them. They had no complaints, they asked on their wedding website in a very tactful way to donate to their honeymoon or house fund. My fiance and I loved how it worked out for all of our friends and have decided to do that, we've already got everything we want for our house.

View Quoted Comment How did they tell their guests? I’m worried because some live out of state and we don’t conversate with some that often, they most likely won’t call to ask they will just buy “usual things” that you’d buy someone for a wedding if that makes sense?

View Quoted Comment Oh, yeah, some people have a hard time with it I guess, but for my cousins wedding she asked guests to please check out their wedding website for gifts/registry. Then know their she told everyone that while they appreciate people who want to buy them gifts, they already have everything they need for their house and would like if people could donate to their honeymoon fund. It worked out really well for her, and my other friends took that same approach to theirs. I hope this helps!